Dear friends Just out of curiosity...It is possible for a grown up man to NOT understand what is going on behind his back? That too after a certain amount of times and repeated incidents and after several explanations? Yesterday I had a "quality" time with my husband as I have sent my kid with my mom for a week to my native and we (just the two of us) are here at home. I thought it was the time to make a sit down with husband (it has happened several times, but this time he seems understanding than the other times. Its just my understanding only hence cant explain further) We just started talking about our past "love days". It was somewhere 7 -8 years back. Remembered the so called Good and bad days, and the real love and affection that we had on each other. It was indeed a great "review point" as we both felt something very different about those moments from what we feel as of now. After sometimes, I was able to comfortably point out every bad happenings and the patterns of the issues (Husband behaves good - IL's get to know this - IL's interfere - Husband changes - IL's take charge of my life - Husband remain silence - I end up fighting - Husband and IL's threaten to divorce - I end up giving in - The circle continues.... This time he listened everything.....And accepted all his faults. He understood the plans and moves of his parents from the beginning... that he failed to understand before, hence ignored. He accepted that he had been so ignorant all the times.... He accepted and understood that he had lost EVERYTHING in his life (Money, love, the initial days of married life happiness, his job, reputation, respect in the family etc..etc..). He understood that he made a great mistake, and he understood his parents were behind in it... But what I dont understand is.... How a man can not understand all these when it is actually happening? I warned him... But he didnt get my points then... When I showed him our old bank pass book (joint acc)... He was clueless as to what happened to all those missing lackhs? I am sure he didnt use them nor did he spend on friends or parties. He is not that type. I am sure that his parents have built a very big home during the same time.. and hence I could guess the rest.... He says it could be from his brothers (but both of them were jobless state then). When I explained the facts, he was speechless, but definitely he wasnt able to recollect his memories as to what and how he has used the money. He is not a selfless type, rather a selfish one.. He can not simply give away all his money to his parents by having no penny on his account (it is possible if he as taken it from our acc and save it in his, but his acc shows a zero balance now). For me, it is clear that he has given his money to his parents, but he was not in his real sense then... What is that mean? How can someone forget or lose his sense in a normal term? Likewise, he did everything but definitely without his knowledge... How? is it possible? may I trust this man or is this yet another excuse?