The last time I posted this on yahoo, an Indian man got mad at me and accused me of generalizing. This isn't my intention, but I'm just trying to find if other people have been in the same boat as me. Is what I experience common in Indian culture or is it uncommon? I'm almost 28 and my Indian parents don't believe in the idea of being an independent adult that can do whatever you want. They think that grown daughters should always obey and listen to what the parents say. My mom's logic is "I gave birth to you. I put a roof over your head. You do what I want." My parents justified themselves by saying that "This is a part of our Indian culture. We aren't Americans ." Now that I'm independent and make my own choices, my mom guilts me for being too Americanized. While I'm in control of my life right now and know how to stand up to my parents, I do look back and find it hard to explain to Westerners how I had to seek approval from my parents on everything. My social life, my dating life, my clothes, my feelings, my opinions...everything was controlled by my parents. I remember telling a friend "I can't move out of my parent's home, because they won't let me." She said, "What do you mean? You're an adult. They can't stop you." It's just that I was raised that I still had to answer and please my parents, regardless of how old I was. I live in an area where I don't have much contact with Indians, so I'm not sure if most Indian families believe that their adult children are free to do what they want. Is it safe to say that a lot of Indian parents still want to control their adult children? Or am I a rare case?