Hi, I am a regular to these forums as a guest but have never posted anything till date. This is my first post. I need some advice from ladies who have handled such situations before. Ours was a love marriage and we are from different cultures. We have been married for 10 years now and have kids. I quit my job recently to take care of my kids. It was a good job and I am career oriented but could not manage ..my kids were too active... My inlaws who are 75+ live in another city and now want to move with us. The issue is both me and my Dh are very very independent and have our own ways of living!! Privacy is too important an aspect for my DH. My inlaws are old and I really want to help them now, but me and my DH really cant stand their attitudes, esp my MIL. She is a kind lady but very orthodox; rituals and practices are too important for her. She still treats everyone else as kids..which is good in a way but you would end up feeling like you dont have a brain... When you are very young, you can adjust to some extent to such behaviour but adjusting now is difficult. Moreover doing that would mean not living in 'our' way which we had loved so much at our home. Its pretty peaceful now..but even their visits would make my life hectic as everything is done by the clock...get up at 6, tea t 7, tiffin at 8..list goes on.. My DH also feels the same and we have tried indirectly to convey that we do not want them to move in permanently but they dont seem to get it. At the same time we also feel very guilty that we are not taking care during thier old age, but doing so will spoil our current life...how do you think we should handle this situation? Pls suggest..