correct! Dear OP, so sorry for your loss. Here is what i would like to tell you- your statement "He thinks he supported so much with my dad's situation then why I am not supporting him with his mom's health... so i kept mum... " he has NOT done you any favor. whether or not his parents treated you like cr@p. It is called being human. your spouse's parents are unwell and may not live long? you spend time with them, stand by your spouse and her parents give moral support and strength. In fact, he hasn't done enough! if he thinks he has done you a favor, it is a sad reflection on how he has been raised, which btw, is pretty obvious from your in-laws actions. So don't let him convince you that he has done you a favor. and tell him that. About dealing with them - like someone said before me - let your h know you will do YOUR best,whether or not he is satisfied with it, is HIS problem. wishing you a lot of strength.