In Laws Entering Your Room

Very true...
As you mentioned , I don't know why is DIL considered as a threat.
She too leaves everything for her son and to live with him.

 

You are not a kid - Why do you need permission to meet your family. Much of the problems are self created because people.blindly follow whatever wrong / unjust demand , without thinking right or wrong. It's our duty to take care of parents and in-laws. Neglecting one at cost of other is not good. If u are doing your duty, then live with pride and not as a slave.

 

Yes I get irritated but won't show up. Sorry. If they have everything in their room why should they unnecessarily come and look around? I don't know why I have much reservation but Iam a kind of person who will not interfere in others matter unnecessarily and also won't like people to poke in me and my stuff. I expect whatever I give others. I can't change my mind..if it is for a genuine reason I don't mind...

 

I hate it. Then i made sure im clear about boundaries than my husband brother gave a good lecture to FIL that one should not enter into room without proper reason n knock. Actually my husband was lil romantic on that day him and I were laughing joking around as he was about to leave for office. I kissed him and turned around just to see my FIL standing n looking without shy. I was furios and came out n said nobody should enter into room without knock ya i was lil rude though. Sorted. Also once he read my greeting card too which was written for my hubby on his bday.Sometimes they dunno any limits if u teach they will learn.

 

Think of inlaws as your parents and then explain to them nicely. Maybe they are not able to understand ur privacy needs so u can speak nicely. My MIL also comes to my room a lot, I never felt irritated. I just think they are like parents, in this matter. When I want privacy, I lock the door.

Now, it is ur home, so don't hesitate to ask for ur needs. But be nice and polite, don't hurt anyone unnecessarily.

 

I have been married 13 years now. When I got married; that used to happen more frequently than now. Back then, we used to live in a single story home. MIL would not only enter our room; but would also mess around with my make up stuff; jewelry while I was away to work. One day when I found my foundation was diluted with water and the other day found nail polish cover was left open. I brought it up with DH and he didn't believe me. Since then I started locking our door. I knew she probably wouldn't like this, but I couldn't confront her either. But felt extremely uncomfortable.

Now we have moved to another house where we sleep upstairs and they downstairs. My MIL now can't walk much; so I don't lock the doors as I know she wouldn't barge into our room for no reason. But I am with you. I don't feel comfortable having them in our room. It also depends how comfortable your relationship is with them.

 

Yeah, I too get annoyed if inlaws enter our bedroom. I give them their privacy by not going into their room / always knock if really need to enter their room and expect the same.