I'm Stuck By Myself.

@Alyssum - we all get stuck in a routine sometimes . Perfectly normal .
From what you have described in your post, all I feel is that you need to bring in some organization in your routine . I don't know if you are in India or abroad.That does change things as one usually had household help in India , not so abroad where everything must be done by self.
Still,a Few tips -
1) plan for a week ahead for what to cook .
2) set aside one day for buying groceries as per the weekly plan
3) set a schedule for meal times (for eg: 9am-1pm-8pm )and stick to it . Make it known to others in the family too that these are times food will be ready , not before or later.
This will give you ample time to attend to your work in an efficient manner.
4) Jot down 3 short term goals and 3 long term goals . These could be related to your hobbies , personal interests , career etc. Once you have an idea what you want to do , you will be able to act on it .
5) weight loss- simply tweaking one's diet is enough to initialize weight loss .Start small - making meals like soup, salad etc for yourself , consciously drinking more water , eating more fruits etc . These will definitely make a difference .
There are weight loss threads in health forum on indusladies . Check those out.
4)set a healthy sleep and wake up routine. If you sleep early like by 10 pm and wake up by 7 , it will give you 3 additional hours to prepare for the day ahead , have your tea/coffee in peace , think about things etc.

 

It is normal to feel stuck at times in life with our convenient routine life. But it is dangerous if we don't do anything to get out of this convenient box.
Because it can affect your physical and mental health in the long run.

I have plenty of friends, both working and stay at home moms who look like old aunties at their mid 30s.
They feel unhappy about their looks for a while, and eventually they start accepting it and move on with their routine life.
I don't know whether they are happy or sad for this state of life. But obviously, they have not only lost their looks, but also act like elders in every way. I feel like they have lost their youth in their 20s itself, while many others are still feeling young both mentally and physically in their late 40s and early 50s too.
So, it basically depends what you want.
In your case, it seems like you are unhappy the way you manage your life, so here are some tips to change it.

Can't you cook your b'fast and lunch in the AM before 8.30?
Consider yourself like a working woman, and do fast cooking before working Hrs.
This way, you get free time in the noon.
Obviously you can put your child to nap, and utilize that time for some exercise, reading, or even listening to music.
That helps to relax your mind a lot.
Also exercising helps to burn calories. I sometimes play a you tube video on simple exercise for 20 mins, and follow their instructions.

If your child is not too small, you may put him/her to play school to have some free time in the morning.
When my child was small, and I was still enjoying my long maternity break, I used to leave my baby with my mom (who lived close by) for 1 hr to utilize that time for myself.
Think whether you have any reliable support system...
If not a nanny, day care for few hrs etc would be of help.

Think about hiring a maid if your finances allow that. At least for part time, so that half of your work will be done.

More importantly stick to a diet plan, and timing. Dont eat everything that you like when your body has no hard work.
Eat a balanced healthy diet with less carbs and fat.

If possible walk a lot. At least in the evening after your H returns from work. Let the child bond with dad, while you take some walk outside to enjoy fresh air.

Always eat dinner before 7.30 if you plan to hit the bed at 10.00.
This way, you can continue the dishes and next day's preparation in the kitchen after finishing your dinner.

Dont wash cloths daily, it consumes a lot of time. If you have a machine, chose a day for laundry.

If your finances permit, but an exercise machine. You may watch TV or listen to music while working out.

Soak fenugreek or cumin seeds the previous night, and drink that water the next morning. Also follow this lemon + honey method in the morning as the first thing.

Less to No sugar diet is the best. At the same time stop eating junk food and carbonated beverages. If you can, try drinking green tea. Even black tea helps too.

Make new friends, join social media, try a new hair style, and different dressing and see the complete change in you in 2-3 months

Good luck

 

You got really great ideas. I just have few things to add.

Questions for yourself: Ask yourself why you want this (to get unstuck). What about current life is sucking everything out of you. What would you need to change. What are you willing to do about it.

Ask for help. With household work and/or taking care of the baby friends, family, so you can get out of the house to go for a walk or to a gym or a class.