I have inferiority complex on my written communication

That probably means that they speak Kannada with an accent!! :rotfl

So what? Just get on with it - writing is a skill like any other. It comes with practice. There is no way around that. The reason most people get frustrated is that it is difficult to measure progress. You might be improving, especially if you are motivated, but you may not realize it!

So, practice, practice, practice. If speaking is important to you, then practice a 'rehearsed spontaneity' (that's what actors and politicians do, for example). Eventually it will become second nature.

Try to find ways of measuring your progress. Whatever method you choose, keep good records of your practice. Nothing succeeds like success.

For writing, especially when you want to make a good impression, you might try a service such as Grammarly.

For a list of some other options, see here. I could go on, but we'll stop here for now!

BTW I agree with Gauri (be warned, she went to a convent school!:eek) - your English is fine. Everything I have said above is based on the assumption that, when it comes to language, there is always another hill to climb, a new peak to conquer.

 

Hi,

Yes, English will always be a second language to me. I am not a Kannadiga.

Definitely my kids would be proficient than me in that skill. If at all anything that worried me in what you have written is not about the language issue, you are quite good if not better than me, was the criticizing about you by your kids. I am not sure how old they are or how young they are, but they do need to be disciplined. I am not sure how you take it but I would have been offended if any of my kids did the same to me or my husband. We need to teach such issues. Even if in the name of fun, they should be avoiding such things. It is quite easy to pick up bad habits but really tough to leave them.

If only convent educated people have to rise up the ladder, what would other people do? There may be a relative advantage with regards to language but don't think too much on that. I am not one but I haven't thought about it until I read your thread. You have to think positively for your kids to learn from you.

If you are not comfortable talking with such people then leave the conversation to bare minimum as required in work place. Don't ever have to be friends with them. Befriend like minded people and that is what I would do. Not all people can have thick skin, so to avoid pain leave them out of your friends circle. World has enough people around and I am sure you can find another person to be a friend.

Regarding how to improve your language skills Soka had already given enough advice.

Take care,
Vaidehi

 

Good to hear that.

Don't worry too much. Peace of mind is what is important than anything else.
English is just a medium of communication, I am sure you would improve with time.
I am not sure in US, but usually there are lots of books and tools in library which can improve english language skills. Find whether they are around in you local library and use them.

Be positive, actually I really don't find anything wrong in the way you have posted ur thread. What you need is more of a boost of positive energy for your mind..

 

@EnglishNotGood,

I speak Kannada and from the literal translation in the instance you have provided, I see no problem. I believe our communication especially with friends and family very intricately tied with our emotions and emotional state and there is nothing with that. Personally I have noticed when I am slow in my speech, I tend to be more deliberate and that almost always allows me to express what I intend to, better. I would say it is best to make a mental note of the error and soon you will them not repeating. As for others and their view of you, well let's just say that with focus on yourself and working at what and where you need, you will send them to the sidelines and what they say will not bother you at all.

And then we are all here, come join us and you will have fun!

 

OP,

your english is fine. It could be you yourself have developed an idea in your head that you are so so or not up to par.

if preposition usage is the main issue then practice speaking it aloud. Talk to yourself in english as you work in kitchen or do chores. For next few days talk to kids and your h only in English. if you stumble and they correct you just accept the correction and carry on. Your confidence and usage will improve a lot within days.