I am a 38 years old married lady with two children. I have been regularly reading different posts and blogs on this website. It has been over 17 years of our marriage now. I live in Australia now but I was born and brought up in India. Neither my mother nor I bothered much about socializing. As her, I too gave first priority to the family. Because of lack of exposure, maybe, my thoughts or my problem solving attitude had been limited. I still need help for the situation I am in today. My story is like this. At the age of 19, I got engaged. When the boy (5 years elder than me) had come to see me, I found him limping badly! I was shocked. I had been good in looks. My age was not too much. I was upset with my father for showing me such boy. My father said to me, that in our community, you may get the rich family but ultimately, your position would be in the kitchen only. We have made you competent enough with education in renowned school and giving you the more exposure than usually the girls in our community do get. My father added further, I like this family because 1) Apart from being wealthy, I see that they have educated their daughters a lot. When you would go to the family where they give priority to education, they would understand the way you are brought up and you would get a platform where people would understand your feelings. 2) These people have name in the society for being highly cultured. It is not money and education but also culture and ethics that matter when you choose your life partner. 3) They are willing to wait till you complete your graduation. You can just get engaged with the boy and focus on your study after then. However, my father did not force me to accept this relation. He knew I was still young and in the first year of graduation. But yes, 19 years old me, I, was allowed to make decision for my life and make choice. There was other proposals also that had come and my father had made the list of plus sides of that relation and negative sides of that relation and thenafter showed me, why does he believe that the last discussed relation would be ideal for me. I loved and adored my parents and till 19 years, I have been even putting of the clothes of their choice and which they would buy from the market. I was not fond of any make up or do the things that usually the other girls do to make themselves look attractive. Further, I was a creature, who always have thought to be helpful to others. My conscience asked me by then, I have been always wishing to be helpful to other, and the God has given me some chance. Why am I not taking this opportunity to adorn somebody's life? I said 'Yes' to this relation. I have been getting the proposals from Engineer, doctor, even at that age because of my height and because of my look. However, this boy has been a graduate.