I raised the voice before my husband today. He is the person I love a lot. He is the person I have cared a lot. He is the person, I adore a lot. I have liked to do 'charan sparsh' to this person and add 'ji' behind his name. But this person has never valued me. He does not have time for me. He does not consider nor values my all contributions for his life. He has been abusing me emotionally, morally, psychologically and physically. The physical abuse stopped after I called the cops once. I kept telling him at the same time that "You are important and I love you. This was not to hurt you but just to see that I am safe". He was okay after some time. The things started going smooth. I was able to work out so many issues except he not calling me or appreciating for what I am doing. He does not find the time for me. He does not ever appreciate me for my contribution for him. Everytime, if there is any problem, I am alone. I have to tell myself that I am a woman. I can make the great difference in the environment. My thinking would impact more on kids than any others thinking. He is never there to help me with my household problems or other. Though he is the hardworking person and I appreciate him for his focus on business and social nature. He cuts off the topic if I ever open my mouth to talk with the guest at home or the friends outside. He does not give me chance to speak anything. To my mother, this is not the problem. To my mother, it is woman's duty to look after the husband and be his shadow in whatever time. We should live what ever life that he gives and we have to surrender ourselves completely to our husband. To me, we should be a team. Husband and wife should spend time together and they should be the emotional support to each other. They should plan, set goal and dream together. They should see the kids growing and together contribute in imbibing good cultural and spiritual values to the kids. However, today, I did different thing. I 'reacted' to my husband's words. Instead of keeping quiet (my mother would like my such behavior) or defending myself and giving explanation, I also did say 'hard words' to him. I really feel very guilty for my behavior. More than that, I saw how my 14 years old son felt seeing his mother using the same words as his father. I would not, even in my wild dream, wish to give such kind of family environment to my kids. Thank fully my 3 years old daughter was asleep by then. When he is not in mood, he would start speaking against my father, my mother, my brother and my bhabhis. He would connect all my private matters that I have shared with him in front of the kids. Today, I also did take part in that kind of abuse. I 'labelled' him that you are very 'weak' to name my other relatives in the matter instead of discussing the problem and finding the solution. I told him that the next time if he takes name of any of my relative then I would take it as the 'emotional abuse' and would not tolerate anymore. I thenafter told my son in private, what I had found in one of the esteemed writer Varalotti's story that to catch the wrong-doer, the police has to also wrongly increase the speed over speed zone. I apologised my son in private about my behavior and that I would stop my this behavior once your father starts caring me or what I do. I am still feeling guilty. I wish that may God help my family to live a loving and understanding life. I wish that may God be our strength and courage and direct us to lead the right path. I wish that may God forgive me for my words. I am very sorry.