@AmulB: You will not lose your kids just because you dont have ajob. Please dont get scared about it. IMO its baseless. You have been taking care of your kids since birth. You gave up your job to take care of them, that makes you primary care giver. You said your DH had DUI and there are proofs that he has drinking problem. He has not been with kids 24/7 like you. In case of divorce, you will get child support from your husband if you dont have a job.