I have been in US for about 2 years and worked for about a yr. I lost my job now. Meanwhile, my brother came to US for his undergrad. His loan is too high for my dad to bear but he is managing somehow. He asked if we could transfer money to my brother’s account and he will put equal amount in Rs in my India account. My husband trusts me and agreed to it. But my dad had cash crunch and he could not transfer the amount. I told my husband and he was okay at that time. Later, very small amounts got added to it but my dad only owes Rs. 5 lakh as of now. My dad is under tremendous pressure these past few months as he had to get my cousin married, bought home for my nani etc, and couldn’t pay back. Lately my husband got to know of the exact amount and was shocked which was a surprise to me. Now I realize my mistake that I should have informed him of every little transaction but I got the impression he would be ok, but still I should have and I said sorry to him. Also, we decided to invest in real estate in India and my dad promised he will take up additional loan if we need the 5 lakh back for that investment. Now my husband is asking my dad for the 5 lakh and says he will not loan any more towards my brother’s education. He told me how he has supported himself, my education and other loans and that he also pays for my brother’s phone bill. We had booked US tickets for my mom-dad, but he became reluctant to pay for that and asked my dad to pay for the tickets themselves. I did not want to burden my dad further and offered to cancel the tickets, and he agreed. But my husband did pay for his parents’ visit although it was before marriage. I am hurt because he does not trust my dad. I have told him he will pay the money back. Also, that he considers it all his money although part of savings is my money too. I told him flatly once that it is also my money and he said “Ok then divide the money and open a separate account”. I do not want to do that as I do not feel it is right. He says as long as he is managing money he will make his decisions and if I want to make decisions I should open a separate account. I am so frustrated and sad that this money has come between our otherwise happy marital life. I am not sure whether I am right or wrong. Any opinions will greatly help me unload this burden. Thank you for reading all this.