How To Stop Being Resentful To Past Hurts

Not easy. I just find one solution shift somewhere and don't tell your address to her and stay away.

 

does she live with you now??

 

CE, you rock!

 

Can you move out and visit your dad daily and care for him ?

 

Hi CE,

I can very well relate to your post. Not that I was pushed for physical stuff... but a variety of incidents happened over a period of time. Mainly, its the difference that parents show among siblings is what i feel, leads to lot of resentment, hatred, 'why me' Qs, low self esteem at times, betrayal feeling. Although its in the past, I cant forget any of those yet, and I guess I can ever forget them for life. It has reached a point that everyone is content masking happy faces. So, cant do much about it now. How I try to overcome is that, whenever I get the betrayal feeling, I look into our marriage pics, pics of various trips we have made (me and DH), speak my heart out to 1-2 people whom I feel good sharing these stuff and, thy dont judge whatever i say, they just listen and listen and at the end make me feel I am the bestest ever :-D, I also talk a lot to my mom in law, general stuff, like whats happening in the family types...and best of all, I read some chik flicks (it makes me really happy and forget my worries).
So, all I can tell you is that, no matter how happy you are currently, you can never let go of it as you would have suffered a lot. So, just try to see the brighter sides of life... and when u reach the threshold again, just pour it onto reliable ears.

Hugs to you,
Cheers
Sinant

 

Well how to stop being resentful......the answer that immediately comes to my mind is that by being grateful, by being forgetful.
Be grateful for what you have in life. Your dad, good health, nice Job etc. Be forgetful of what your mom did to you. Not necessarily mean forgive her. But let bygone be bygone. Try not to think. Keep your interactions with her to the minimum possible . There is a saying out of sight out of mind. It really holds true