How To Shut Up Mean Mils ?

Cant laugh enough

 

Yes, This is really important. It is very easy to show faces, that will multiply the effect from both your DH & MIL. So, if you wanna say something, tell it to your hubby too, but very politely.

 

I have experienced this. Well not from in laws but from my dad. When he stays with us he almost does this all the time . I don't understand why though. But let me tell you ILs or in general old people who do this don't think through . That's what I feel. When they were our age I'm sure none of the elders would have done that to them. Like knock ask permission and enter the room. As Rihanna has pointed out this is so western. Plus since frequency of my dad staying with us is less I haven't told him anytime that he shouldn't do that. Probably would tell if he does that again a couple of times more . In your friend's case a polite communication from hubby to his mom would have helped before actually getting into the act. Why didn't he tell her before. Would have saved the embarrassment for both. On the other hand we definitely will do for our kids because we have the experience of how annoying it is.
Regarding other point my opinion Is don't adopt the indirect way to shut them up. First of all no need to shut them up. Sounds very rude to me . Always resort to effective ,assertive and polite communication . When u can't communicate with them thinking they will be offended by you in spite of being polite use your husband and make him understand . Tell him if he tells they will definitely understand.For this indirect method of telling them or teaching them a lesson we need a lot of thinking and no need to invest so much time and our precious brain for all this. That's what I feel..

 

A newly wed woman telling her mil to give them privacy will start a whole new drama.

The husband will most likely tell the wife" what was the need for saying that".

Read many threads on this forum about husbands who won't close the bedroom door till parents have gone to sleep.

Have experienced the same barging in.
If an experienced older person does not have basic sense then one should just not care.
Let them be embarrased if they don't worry about embarrasing the son and daughter in law.

Calling the carpenter to install a locking system in the room would make a lot of sense but in a house where no room has one and mil regularly barges into the bedroom, this would cause no less raised eyebrows and embarrasing questions.

Sounds silly ....but not as silly as mil not knowing why the room to her son and dil should not be barged into.

 

On this I agree with you that not all husbands are the same. It's unfortunate that husbands don't understand the small needs of their wives and take the side of their moms and feel that wife is complaining.