How to forget husband infedility?

I agree...give him some tight slaps.

You say he called you. Does that mean you are staying separately now? or are you travelling for work and you only see him on weekend?

I agree with Tanoshii - If you have forgiven him or want to forgive him, you should sort things out and plan for your life together ( if you are living separately). If you are already with him, please try to go to counselling and try to sort this out.

If you are planning to remain separate and ultimately divorce, then you should concentrate on your work, have a good career so that you can be independent. Try to talk to your parents. Ask them for the advice. Make them aware of all this so that they don't blame you.

Its better to have an open conversation and sort things out rather than live in pain. Past will definately creep in your mind. You will have second thought every single day of your life.

Be strong and do the right thing.

 

Anju, may be he's disturbing you on purpose by contacting you. Better ignore his calls and lead your life on your way/wish.

 

As to how long it will take to forget him......when you find someone new he will just be a like a fart....a bad smell somewhere behind you. So if you have the opportunity to even casually date, do it. Timewise, figure two years without having someone new. Don't bother going back....people don't change unless they decide to themselves. And even if he loves you (doubtful) or you love him (probably just some sick bonding/habit) it doesn't mean you should stay with him. Look at it objectively.

 

Dear Anju,
Even if you do decide to go back to H keep your career foremost. You have not mentioned if you have kids , if you dont then its easier to call it quits.
Kids are not a solution to abusive situation.
You will never fully trust him because of his EMAs ,he may stop beating you up but he may never stop womanising.Its difficult to trust him again , you say he is still carrying on his affairs then why do you want to go back to him?
How can anyone forgive unless somebody asks for forgiveness? He should regret , show remorse and make amends only then can you forgive him.
Family may advise you to stick on if they are conservative, but its your life and your decision at the end of the day.
No spouse ever forgets their partners EMAs, trust is broken forever and it takes a very, very long time to rebuild. You will always suspect that he is up to no good even if he is behaving nicely.
Its like once bitten twice shy.

 

whats DV ?

 

Dear Anju,
You already know the answer deep in your heart.
Its not only H but also his sis who is creating problems.
Try to collect your precious stuff from that place , leave the unimportant things .
DV is inexcusable in any circumstances . He will never repent as his family is supporting him and preventing him from seeing his mistakes.
It will depressing for a while but definitely better than a lifetime of abuse.
You can go for counselling for yourself. It will help you to be peaceful. Hope you share your problems with your family, siblings. Its good to get moral support at this juncture so that you dont feel alone.
All the best.

 

DV is domestic violence in short.

 

Anju,

Give him an ultimatum. He and his sister should learn to behave. Bringing up such petty reasons to see a girl being beat up is just cheap behaviour. She must know better being a woman herself. If he does not trust you and is now trying to cling to you, there's obviously more going on behind your back.

Pick up your life from here and move on. If there was no abuse or affairs, it would be worth trying. If you still believe he is cheating behind your back, he might never change too. It will definitely be a very stressful decision if you plan to leave him. But it would be better than having to live with such people and be the scapegoat.

 

Dear...
better an ending with Pain than a Pain with NO ending....