I have a 4 year old daugher( just turned 4) and this is some information about her 1) she has slight language delay compared to other kids of her age. but follows simple directions and talks a lot in simple sentences. We are working on that and able to see good development. she can talk two languages. 2) she is potty trained for pee, but doesnt want to poo in her potty, we tried almost everything and currently trying without pressurising her and didnt achieve night time dryness yet, have to work on that. 3) I did the following things for her until now : a) i dress her up, she can dressup with help b) i still feed her, i will let her eat first, and if she doesnt show interest, i will feed her . she eats without help if it is her favourite, otherwise, i will feed her c) she can wear socks and shoes, with lot of help. i mean she does a little bit, but i do the major part d) she can comb her hair, but not properly d) other things like, i make bed for her, i towel dry her after taking bath, e) i let her make choices for clothes, shoe, jacket and food she eats. She takes bath by herself. f) she plays independently and is very social. I thought she is indepedent enough for her age. she goes to preschool, her teacher told us that she needs to be more independent. She said that all the kids of her age are doing the following things without help -> wear jacket or take off jacket without help -> wear shoes and socks without help -> get her waterbottle and drink w/o help -> get her lunch bag in lunch time, unzip it, open lunch box and eat and close it and put it back in the bag and zip it everything without help. , and she asked us to encourage her to be more independent at home. she was telling that a 4 year old should know how to feed herself, dress and get ready all by herself without help.. I agree with her, the problem was i never realized that i was doing everything for her without encouraging her to do it herself. Now I started to encourage her to try everything, sometimes she shows interest in trying, sometimes she doesnt. I know i cant teach her everything overnight. But I am looking for tips and advice from other experienced moms. I have another problem about putting her to sleep. But i would like to post it as another thread. Please give your opinions and advice even if you dont have any tips for me. Thank you.