@EightKittens your nick has such a fuzzy feel Ok, I am going to deviate from the other advises given here. I hesitate, since I really value the opinion of ILs especially @Rihana , @yellowmango , @mangaii and others who have posted here , but perhaps because I will see myself in your parents shoes in a few years time, I have a different perspective. What I get from your post is not "I dont want to marry." What I feel from you is frustration, you tried to meet up with "matches" , tried a little bit of dating but they varied from bad to really bad. You are fed up. And so you would rather not venture - you are happy with status quo so why bother? If I feel my daughter was settling with status quo because she it is too much effort/heart pain I would be relentless in chasing her to be proactive - "Are you putting yourself out there - meeting the kind of people you gel with? And also mingling with others who may not be your usual cup of tea? Have you built a circle of friends who look out for you ? Are you grooming yourself well ? Are you making the effort to be happy, to be positive ? Are you working out regularly ? Are you living your life while waiting for the right guy? Because if you are not putting your best out there, I will intervene. " Not bombard her with all of these on in one shot but yes but weave this in here and there and now and then. She is a very choosy person and her personality isnt easy to put up with either - so we need all the opportunities. Either she says she wants to get married and she takes some concrete steps to go about it or she says she wants to remain single and she has some concrete plans on her future as a single woman. No waiting and watching for the right guy to find you. Because , you see, men rarely ask for directions - so it is going to be hard for him to find you if you dont plonk yourself in front of him. My goal as a parent is to ensure my children are set for life, stable and happy. And I think marriage/having a partner to walk with you is one great way. And if they are happy and stable without marriage and can convince me that they will be even when old and grey, then I am open to that. But are they really convinced? EightKittens, You are saying it is better to be single than unhappily married and that is absolutely right. Your parents will also agree, I think. But you are not saying, it is better to be single than be sorta happily married. And your parents want the latter option for you. And they think that you want that too. But they feel it is a high chance of that while you feel there is a low chance. And so the question boils down do wanna take that chance? And what can you do to improve the odds? To your parents it is moving to India. If you can show them better odds with any other action, they would gladly to agree with you. And also are you really really sure you dont want kids? How? It is often mistakenly thought that only those who like children and/or babies, want to have them. Not many of us really like kids and at most wanna spent 1-2 hours with them, and babies are cute but pretty boring. Liking to play with kids and wanting to have them are two very very different things. Maternal /paternal urges are intense stuff. Them hormones are dictators of the worst kind , they can spiral you down when it hits. No guarantees in life just 'Tis better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved at all. Hope you meet the right man and become EightKittensAndOneMan soon.