How To Build Positive Atmosphere At Home

Agreed with Nakshtra....

If you have problem with your dominating in-laws and they also staying with you then.
I used to control but had never disrespect or argue with MIL but my fustration and stress spill over on my DH. I know, I am spoiling my married life... But my patience level is getting lowest nowdays.

I think, I can work to improve my married life. My husband is good human being n caring too. He never complained and angry.
Please help.

 

Cook together eat together walk together and sleep. Try to do negative talks on phone while you are in office and close the topic. Do not continue this at home. Our home gets the vibration from us and give it back. If you keep everything positive then it will also give you positive vibes.

 

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I tried that my husband and I walk at night together. But he is more interested in TV. I am also working and we both not get time to discuss these over phone.
Agreed with you that positivity reflects back but I some times required to spill otherwise I will be suffocated.

 

Situation is similar for most and these are just the ways that if get adapted can be fruitful. But not always possible to do so agreed.

 

@nakshatra1 good ideas to keep a positive environment at home.
You are right about not discussing negative people and negative experiences with the spouse. I think it’s also important to foster positive relationships at work so one doesn’t carry all the negative energy at home. Trust people to do their work , be respectful and not indulge in any gossip.

I also think keeping a clutter free home is also important to create a positive atmosphere. No loud colors in the home, subtle peaceful understated decor .

Taking walks with the spouse is a good idea, if not everyday atleast once a week. Having hobbies that both can participate in and enjoy is also important.

And best to avoid topics about inlaws ! shanthi Bhang and arguments don’t yield any positive results.

 

Instead of learning from others you are giving great lessons to the readers. Its an inbuilt quality that you already have. One more thing that I would like to add is postponing sometimes sort out things on its own and we do not find anything major in it to discuss. Even in the worst situation we can sort out its major part by deep thinking instead of discussing . I do this now as I too realised that discussing everything with h is not always fruitful and makes the situation even worse. Discuss only when you are not able to sort out and need some guidance otherwise be a self analyser and solve the issues.

 

Actually I would say,don't keep everything to your heart. If your DH's parents's are the reason for your trouble, you don't have to sacrifice your peace by not telling to DH.He should be aware of what is happening to you because your In-laws would never tell the truth to their son. And we women feel better when we vent even if venting may not give us solution.

But how to convey about them to DH makes the difference. If you both already have some bonding,not all vents would lead to quarrels. So convey certain incidents or happenings that disappointed you about them in a subtle way. Don't show anger/cry.Just tell him that you were sad with their behavior. I realized that the more you hold your emotions to yourself,more harm it does to you physically & mentally. If your husband is understanding he might stand up for you in times of need and may also provide you comforts in some other way.

Coming to your main question of how to maintain positivity at home,firstly dont create a silent environment at home.Listen to music and keep it lively.Second keep yourself occupied with hobbies/a routine which you like.Other Ilites have already given u other points which you can carry out.