how much dowry you gave??

gopinath · Nov 9, 2010

In indian marraige system dowry is a fundamental thing.
(don't know when it will be changed)

Tel me friends how much dowry you have gave for your marriage?

Gopinath

preethiitech · Nov 9, 2010

My parents gave 21 lakhs( 15 lakhs for me and Dh and 7 lakhs for MIL and FIL) ((My inlaws demanded that they want more share in the 21 lakhs, for which my father dint agree!!))125 poun of gold, several diamond necklaces,diamond bangles, earrings, 40 kilos of silver items and much more.
Silk sarees, Normal Sarees, churidhar, nighties, towels, all accessories,costly slippers,etcetc.

My in-laws also gave : 10 poun jewellery, one small diamond set, 4 kilo silver, 11 silk saree, 11 normal saree, 11 churidhar, 6 night wear, many towels, hand bags, fancy items.

Although I don't approve of it, it is said in our tradition that these things help the newly-wed to settle themselves well. I think its not much use, everything lies in the bank locker:bonk

Gopi, am I clear with this? What you think?

gopinath · Nov 9, 2010

oh my god!!!!! r u doing any business in the name of marriage
preethi its too much

Gopinath

lotusgirl · Nov 9, 2010

gopinath,
I understand you are yet to be married & hence the many questions and discussions about married life & other related stuff?

Are you aware that according to indian law, taking & giving dowry is illegal, but it still happens in the background becuase people are still scared about society & what it demands even if its unreasonable?

i sincerely hope as a guy you are just asking this question for your own curiosty and not to judge how much you can demand & get as dowry. Its only when the bride & groom take a stance of not demanding and not giving dowry will this evil practise stop.

A gift from either set of parents are normal & logical, especially in a society where children depend on their parents for a long time of their life. But to set a price & make demands, is simply wrong.

LG

gopinath · Nov 9, 2010

Dear lotusgirl,

yes you are right iam yet to marry...
i don't like this dowry system,even my parents don't like it,hence i wont fall in that worst community(dowry seeking rowdies)

we have everything in my home,we don't need or expect any gold/money or asset from girls house.

i just started this thread to know how much robbery is going in many girls family

Cheers
Gopinath

lotusgirl · Nov 9, 2010

thanks for the clarification! its refreshing to hear such an attitude once in a while

gopinath · Nov 9, 2010

Thank you lotus girl,

i want to be a best son for my parents

i want to be a best brother for my sibilings

i want to be a best hubby for my wife

i want to be a best father for my children

I won't hurt my love by bargaining dowry got it

Gopinath

SR09 · Nov 9, 2010

Good to hear all the above.:thumbsup
When are you getting married?

maliniglow · Nov 9, 2010

Hi ,

In many boy families , boy's parents are not demanding money or gold from the girl parents. My cousin sister is married to a business man, He did not demanded anything, what he expected is good understanding girl for him as well as his parents.

When there is no demand from both sides, then there would be happy life.
Even though we say like this, but when boys are good and his parents are like monsters we have to give no other way. How many of them would get good family like my cousin sister? A very few of them only get it. on reading many Illites stories i am frightend .

Prettina · Nov 9, 2010

Gopi,

There was a very hot discussion on this dowry topic..
check this to know others perspective..
hope this link helps you for your future marriage analytic:rant