Anika, I was like you once upon a time but not anymore! I am extremely social though I take my time to warm up. I go with the flow these days Anika. How often do I socialize? sometimes too much. Being a part of a big community helps as there are some or other events going on and you get to meet people once in a while. I learnt very late relationship will not exist if flaws are scrutinized. Even at work I try to socialize a little cautiously though. I have Some well-wishers but I do not call them regularly or hang out with them frequently or depend on them. When I meet them just share something nice to keep the environment lively and that is all. Once a month I talk with few close friends. just catch up on recent happenings. these days I do not have the need/desire to really reconnect. I try to be there where my presence is appreciated (no matter how inconvenient it is for me) and move away from places where I don’t feel welcome. But one thing is I always keep the line of communication open and never end a relationship on a sad note hoping someday they would come back. Recently I read this somewhere “You will be too much for some; too soft; too loud too this too that; but you will always be perfect for the people who need you!” Be there for who needs us and move away from people who don’t is what I am trying to practice. makes my life easier .