How Do I Communicate This With My 6 Year Old?

Why not take her shopping for a new swimsuit? Make it a positive change for something nicer.

Children at 6 understand situations and social norms. If you tell her that her butt is exposed and that maybe she can wear something else until she grows into this one, she will respond positively to your request. Afterall, it's not comfortable wearing an ill-fitting swimsuit.

 

In my experience kids your daughters age are starting to understand/ misunderstand the concept of beauty and perfection , thanks to their peers at school. Kids at that age don’t hesitate to state their opinions to each other if they think it doesn’t fit their idea of beauty .

So if I were you i would not tell her that the swim suit doesn’t fit her/ suit her. I would go to the nearest Disney store and pick a cuter better fitting swim suit and get her all excited about it. It may or may not work, but worth a try.

 

Is there any way that the swimsuit can be "dirty" or out of commission for a day or two? Then make it magically disappear onto some top shelf, until she fits into it?

 

I'm pretty sure that's what my own mom did, and I turned out fine mostly, at least. As parents we are so overwhelmed by our responsibilities and making sure our children grow up to be well-adjusted citizens of the world. In the grand scheme of things, this isn't going to produce irreparable damage (by hiding it, I mean). Her feelings that she is "ugly", that's definitely not good, and if that is her interpretation, I would take the lesser of the evils to solve the problem.

 

Rakhii, I am so sorry you are overwhelmed. Parenting is tough no doubt . I didn’t see your earlier reply about having other swimsuits when I typed mine.i am a strong believer in kids realizing the value of money.
But I also think your daughter is at an age where the foundations for good self esteem are being laid.Coming from a family where self esteem issues are rampant and how it impacts adult life ( marriage, friendships and everything else) I felt this needs to be tackled carefully.
Making the swimsuit disappear is an immediate solution , but will not still address the deeper issue why she thinks you implied she was “ugly”. I know it’s not possible always but positive words will definitely help going forward .
Can you alter the swim suit , even basic stitches can help it stay in place. Tell her I am altering it , it will fit you “nicely “ ?

On a side note, please take a deep breath ! Life can be overwhelming but I think it sometimes helps to slow down. I hope you get enough sleep with kids, work and everything else. Please take care. I wish you the best !

 

@Rakhii the swimsuit could go missing for a day or two but how about talking, her mom did not mean you are ugly, you are my peach, what made you think i meant ugly..maybe you talked about her losing so much weight adter sickness to someone that she has become so thin or something on that lines especially to your parents . she mayhave overheard something..

the swimsuit can be tacked with a few stitches temporarily and can be removed when she improves but addressing the issue and also about how tantrums and fits is not the way