Help! with your thoughts! (A moolam boy with an Ayilyam girl Stint)

Hi All,

This might be a frequetly discussed topic amongst the members of this group.
But mine is with a tinge of uniqueness and some thing which I haven't seen anywhere of being discussed.

I, a Moolam boy (Hindu), is in love with this girl of Ayilyam (Non Brahmin) nakshatram. Yes, I can see some eyebrows raised!!

We have been in relationship for more than an year now. We broke in between due to some silly misunderstandings, which dint last more than 2-3 months.

We knew that we were in need of each other's companionship, support and the love. Ever since we came together after the breakup, we just wanted to make sure of one thing; never break for any damn reason! We have been enjoying this relationship.

There are going to be small fights, misunderstandings; and it happens in every relationship. We just have to be mature enough to let pass such negative attributes.

Now, it's sort of a pressure time, that at both our homes, the parents are seriously hunting for alliances.

With no doubt on our compatibility, our like mindedness our common and mutually agreeable goals, I need, or would like to have some clarity on the astrological equations as well. This might sound STUPID. But, I need to consider it to the minutest of the extent to convince my parents and tell them, it works and is compatible in their aspect as well.

Irrespective of what the result is going to be, I am sure to go with what I have decided. I can convince my parents. Just that I wanted to do it more convincingly. Their ego and belief will be scratched; I know; but I need to plan for Damage Control.

I hope you are all able to relate to my present situation!

Here are the details of mine:

Date of Birth: November 24, 1984
Rasi : Dhanus (Sagittarius)
Rasi Lord : Guru (Jupiter)
Nakshatra : Mula
Gothram - Harita
Nakshatra Pada (quarter) : 1st pada (quarter)

and that if her's

Religion: Hindu (Non Brahmin / Saiva Pillai - Tirunelveli, Tamil Nadu)
Date of Birth: August 12, 1988
Rasi : Kataka (Cancer)
Rasi Lord : Chandra (Moon)
Nakshatra : Aslesha/Ayilyam
Nakshatra Pada : 4th pada



I also tried to find the rating among the 10 porutham that normally people look for getting the near ideal groom/bride


Pls validate this.....


Dhina porutham:
Moolam - 11th Star from Aayilyam
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Gana porutham
We belong to Rakshash gana
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Mahendra porutham
No

Sthree Dheerkam
Mine being the 11th star from her's, the porutham is Mathima
Mathima / Good Match

Yoni porutham
"Aayilyam - Male Cat / Moolam - Female Dog"
Mathima / Good Match

Rasi porutham
Dhanus is 6th from Kataka
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Rasi athipathi porutham
Mine is Jupiter and her's Moon
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Vasiya porutham
Kadakam (She) - Dhanus (Me)
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Rajju porutham
I belong to Prathama Rajju and she belongs to Anthi Rajju
Uhamam / Very Good Match

Vethai porutham
No




All said and done, I predominantly believe in personal compatibility more than anything else. Since we score better in the 10 porutham's, I just want to keep that as an armour


Thanks in advance for all those who would be throwing in their comments and more importantly some positive energy on me to pursue this


Sree

 

Hi Raji,

Thanks for the response.

Good to hear you say that Ayilyam and Moolam match.

Yes, I am a Brahmin - Iyer.

I agree to your point. This was in fact discussed with her and she feels ok to accommodate with the customs. But to what extent? She always had the thirst to learn new things. I am hoping that she would do the same here. I am one sort of a guy who don't really believe in imposing things on others.

As a matter of fact, even I am not too much immersed into the daily rituals. I respect the culture and have good value for it.

And more, once after marriage - if things go on well and as planned, we have decided to live separate for an year or so for better understanding between us and also to understand each other's family virtues.

I am keeping my fingers crossed and hoping for the best!

Regards

 

Hi Mathangi,

I second your thoughts!
Whatever said, has been to the point.

I have always believed on the self and whatever has been thought and planned by the self has worked out well - touch wood. I joined my new company on Ayilyam.

There was big resistance from my parents in doing so. But I did join and have been enjoying my stint ever since. I don't find a logic behind them saying so. "What's there in a star?" this was my question to them!



Thanks Mathangi and Raji for providing a good insight. Really motivating. Taking some cues out of it, I think I am confident enough to convince my parents

Wish me good luck ladies


Best!!

 

More insights and thoughts are welcome!!!!

 

I don't have siblings. With respect to your point, I am in a comfortable zone.
But I too have felt sometimes, if I have had any, they could have been of a great support.

Anyways let me not go too much into assumptions

I wish this gets closed on a high!!

 

this is something which i am thinking for quite a while...

what would be the better way to get married?
1. iyer style? (for that the girls family should accept)
2. by the customs that the girls family follows? (which i dont think my parents, esp my mom, would agree)
3. or is it better to tie the knot in a temple?

or are there any better ideas? :help