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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Sweetygals, Oct 22, 2019.

  1. kurinje

    kurinje New IL'ite

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    Thanks Rihanna. But I don’t have that option. May be as a new member I don’t have rights to post a new thread
     
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    If you want to preserve your peace you should hire more competent childcare help and not rely on family. Notwithstanding your issues with MIL or moms visa it is hard for older people to manage kids full time and it can breed resentment even in healthy relationships.
    Look around for someone who is able to care for both kids. Many nannies have to care for twins or sibling sets so you should be able to find someone. As Rihana suggested decouple the nanny and maid duties. With such long working hours you may have to find two people to cover. It may not make financial sense at the moment but this phase is temporary and a peaceful atmosphere in the home is priceless.
    And don't rely on the separation card if your MIL comes. A powerful weapon is most effective when used sparingly.
     
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