Help Me Decide!

So OP looks like you have attracted some attention but i must say that you “poked the bear”. Honestly this thought (of life in India) does go through my mind pretty frequently and I also miss my life in India. But I am certain that I am not moving back. Moving to Canada was a joint decision for DH and me and the reason was straight forward - make more money and have a better life. And that reasoning prevails for both of us.
There was a time last year when i was having a tough time and felt very homesick. Went to parents place in India and was able to meet most of my cousin sisters. All of them were taking tips from me for Canadian PR application! Some of them were as frank as saying that they wanna move by hook or crook. This kinda changed my perception.

You may think that your life sucks but be aware that there are ppl out there (ppl you know) who want to live your life.

From what I gather:
You are a proud mom of a wonderful son
You have a job that you like and want to grow in
Both you and DH work which means you are able to save money

To me you are living a good life . Social life according to me is not static. Ppl move cities and even countries all the time. So my advice is don’t make your decisions based on social life.

But if you are having second thoughts then decide on your “why” factor. Why you moved to USA in the first place. If that reasons prevails then you are where you should be.

On the 10 friends you didn’t like... I am in the same boat. We have a similar group of my Dh’s friends and their wives. I joke to my DH that his friends’ wives are useless and I am done bonding with them. The only topic of common interest for us is movies and I hate the movies they like and I hate the movie stars they love and vice versa.

And I agree with you that I am not interested in white women and their dogs and having to explain them that I don’t have to take 20 injections before going to India because I am so amazingly immune

So looks like we both are on a mission to find our soul sistas! Hope one of us finds it soon

Cheers
Ramya

 

Then you shouldn’t have come on H4 visa. A hard earned and well deserved H1 might have changed your opinions.

Just saying!

 

Sorry to have to call out the tending-to-racist comments in this thread.

It's not fair to call out a race of people and stereotype them. Aren't there dog-lovers in India? Don't we all know of peers in our generation struggling with the saga of "ex-es" and dating before or after the arrange-marriage route?
So what if they don't understand our "immunity" and we have to explain it to them - again and again? If we could explain our culture in genuine earnest - it *will* show and we just might be able to build better relationships everywhere.

 

Dear @Mindfullness - just because you have not been able to get close to those specific families you have met - you are generalizing to the "entire" race of people - and have closed the case on the relationships working out. That is what I am trying to bring out here.

No, one is trying to target you here. We can only try to evaluate the situation from your "words". Your words are all we have.

If you would like only those who conform to your opinion to reply - then please state that, nothing wrong at all with that. You can say:

"Folks, I am only looking for re-assurance from those who think social in life in India is better." Simple!

When you put yourself out there in a public forum, you have to be willing to take both sides of the coin. All the very best with whatever you choose for your peace of mind!

 

Sorry for your experience!

However, people who decide to stay in the US shouldn't be concerned how mindfulness's experience turned out. Everyone has a different take on relationships. And when it come to making friends in a new city, a lot of effort goes into it. So whoever decides to stay there are a lot of ways to find friends, but the friends might come in all packages - they might be working full time, they might be stay at home people, they might be in a whole another situation than you. I met one of my good friends in an indian grocery store. we exchanged numbers and our family had lunch one day, and we hit it off instantly and has been spending our holidays together ever since. Around the same time i met this friend, I met another person, however we found that we don't have the sync. It did not work out. of these two scenarios, first friend was a stay home person, second one was student/working like me.
My point is finding friends needs patience and work. It is a two way street.
I do not think I will choose life in India over life in US based on the friendship I can make or break.