you have cleaning agencies where you can hire cleaners weekly or biweekky, scout around and find the one who suits you based on reviews for help in kitchen ,you will need to.find Indians which i think is little difficult, leave ads in grocery stores or temples or Facebook groups, you can verify them from prevous employers or you could try and find somebody who supplies home made food. if we were in India most of house hold have help so ,the burden is automatically reduced, if you are abroad ,I think we do not go for help since it is expensive. I think it is women's fault that we do not look for paid help because we again feel responsible for savings. if supportive husband is not there then he should at least feel the pinch of money paid to.hired help. no one will be garlanding you for your slogging and spoiling your health. so we need.loosen our purse strings and get help.