Having a guest in my house (night mare)

i agree with you that it is the fault of the girl only.she should know how to behave in other's house.
she should not take you granted.so tomorrow in front of her give some instruction to your daughter like have bathe then only you will have tiffin and all.a girl of 20 years surely under stand your hint.
if doesn't work out tell her directly what you don't like in her.
maximum she will spoil your friendship with her mother.

 

tell her directly u should not behave this way being a girl

 

hi

though she has come for short stay tell her in our house we are following some traditional way and you also follow the same.
tell her your children are so hygenic so bathing and brushing done twice.
call your friend or her mom and advise her why this girl so unhygenic.... also tell some one who was like that faced with lot of illness in the future...

 

Sounds like good idea, try this.. See if girl picks her hint by this.

Also try talking to her mom(ur friend) and tell her in a way, that
you are not complaining about her, but worried about her
hygiene/health, and her future life after marriage with this bad habits.:bonk

 

WEll, if you feel you are close to the family and a well wisher, molding a future individual like your own shouldn't be a problem, no?

 

Well, while I understand your frustration on her not taking bath everyday, and eating without brushing her teeth, I am unable to comprehend why should she seek your permission to sit on the sofa??? And isn't she already wise enough to clean her own plates? Why do you think she is obliged to clean all the vessels in the sink???

I guess, the feeling is mutual!

For your problem, well I am a cleanliness freak, so if someone did this in my house, I would tell them directly to brush and take bath first. Talking directly solves most of the problems!

 

Its best to lay the rules on first couple of days. When she came and you showed her room, that's the time you shd have told her what you expect (politely off course). I don't understand why she has to ask to sit on the sofa???

 

Will it be ok if she had been a "boy" ?

 

Hi OP,

I understand your annoyance at her waking up late, not brushing her teeth and taking bath and your discomfort at her sense of dressing. But why should she wash all the dishes in the sink ? And not sit on the sofa or move about the house when she has her periods ? I suppose being 20 years of age she knows about feminine hygiene products :hide: Why should it prevent you from your daily prayers, as long as she does not insist on joining you ? :idontgetit:
You can ask her to wake up on time and brush and have her food. Maybe if you are close enough to her family you can even ask her to dress a bit more conservatively at home. But if you ask her to clean the dirty dishes in the sink (when she is sensible enough to clean her own plate) and sit on the floor when she is having her periods, it may very well be the end of your friendship with the family :coffee
But please try not to stereotype gender roles. Would you have been fine with a friend's 20-year son behaving the same way ?