Have you ever been bored of being good to others!

srinivasan_vanaja · Jun 14, 2007

hi everybody,

i just saw these words imprinted on a t-shirt saying "I want to be good, but i am bored". reading this my mind recollected all the goodness in me and the results of being good. some were really bitter and some were really sweet.

so ladies, "have you ever been bored of being good to others? share your views".

regards,

Vanaja

lalithasai · Jun 14, 2007

Hi Vanaja,

If I give it a sincere thought, it feels good to be good to others but yes it gets boring too....

Sai Lalitha
See Always Inside

Sriniketan · Jun 14, 2007

Sure, when others don't want to notice our good intention ( whether it is intentionally or unintentially) and take us for a ride(thalaiyil molaga arraikurathu---grinding chillies on one's head ( this is the literal meaning)----which means taking things for granted).
I am experiencing a lot in this manner from my MIL's side and everybody blames me for that. Their expalanation to this is you are the one responsible for her behaviour. I don't think so. It is her attitude which does that and not me. Poor me:icon_frown: Maybe me being good made her worse? :idontgetit:
What do you think?
Sriniketan

Huma · Jun 14, 2007

hi
i am sick of being a good person. everybody take advantage of u,took u for granted, make fun of u......the list is endless.......

but i dont want to be like others too..... so what is the exact measure?

bye

srinivasan_vanaja · Jun 14, 2007

dear lalithasai and sriniketan,

i enjoyed your comments.

let us wait for more interesting answers.

regards,

Vanaja

srinivasan_vanaja · Jun 14, 2007

dear huma,

me too waiting to know the exact measure. we will find it soon from our intelligent members.

regards,

Vanaja

ilagandhi · Jun 14, 2007

I would be interested in what you mean by being good to others. Does it mean:

Never being rude - always nice to everyone (Yes that's boring)
Helping some when they really need you -that's never boring.

So it's all about your individual perspective around what goodness means to you. Don't you think???

lalithasai · Jun 14, 2007

Huma,

I feel you still need to be good. After all even if people take advantage, even if they are nasty... it's only bad for them. Law of Karma - Thou shall reap the seed they sow.

Take it cool. Ask yourself to what extent you can you should be good and when people exceed their limits, smile and say to yourself "That's it, they deserve no more" and don't bother to respond. If people annoy you and get on your nerves when u r trying to be good - just switch to silence... that annoys people the most.

I'm very short tempered and when people are nasty to me when I'm good, I used to be very frank but it only hurt as people always manipulate. Now I've started being silent - no comments - it just annoys them .. I kind of enjoy it.

Sai Lalitha
See Always Inside

lalithasai · Jun 14, 2007

What do you say Vanaja and Huma????

srinivasan_vanaja · Jun 14, 2007

hi ilagandhi,

you have given a good thought or its your real opinion of being good.

i mean being good is generally the qualities in human being which we all consider good.

when i say its boring it never means that we should change rude. i concentrate more on the results of being good.

regards,

Vanaja