Greedy Mil

With the information that OP provided she is not sending any money so why make statements like “She can always send for her parents”

 

Whose name is the house now??

 

Your pil are same like mine. Same story as mine.
Try to change the house to your husband name somehow

 

How will that happen ? Are they so good that they will magically transfer the house to the son's name ??

 

It is not only ILs, the parents are also like that too.

Every time, when I call my mom, it is the same old story. The problem is, they have the idea of 'imaginary' - global life style of living off someone else money and got too comfortable.

What happen to live within the income, salary? You earn the money to spend it.

My sister rents her own single family house and lived in my apartment for 4-years. I remodeled the apartment and I was hoping that I can go to stay for 1-month every year; Without even telling me, she added another bathroom to the bedroom; Why cannot they live with 2-bathroom for 3 bed room apartment? Isn't that enough? It became big mess - When I asked about it, she created a big scene and settled 6L to move out (for overseeing the remodeling!). My mom moved in and later my brother with his family moved in without informing me. Because it is remodeled up to date, 3 bedrooms, 3 baths and fully furnished modular kitchen, everyone is after the property.

Now, my brother wants that apartment - transferred to his name. My mom is after me, when are you going to transfer the property to him? I told that he can have it after my days, it is too early at least I live for another 25 years healthy. She asks me, 'whom do she can contact, after I am gone' and what if, I changed my mind later? What kind of question is that? My brother has more than 1L per month rental property but he wants to occupy mine.

The mistake I made, fully furnished the apartment with kitchen, 2-beds, sofa, dinning table and said, 'let the apartment be empty', I like to stay once a month every year. It's 8-years, now. I stepped into the house once before furnishing it and once when my sister was living in it ( both times I stayed in hotel).

Ever since it was built, one after another, taking over that place. I have no place to go when I visit India and I stay in a hotel nearby, cost 10K per night (because they don't like my DH). But wants the property paid by him?

All I can say is, it is the fate. We are born to pay life long dues to them (so called our relatives). Same old, NRI horror stories.

The best I can do, don't call anyone in India. At least, I don't have to hear their sob stories! I hate when someone takes undue advantage of me.

 

If someone is a missing person, (never calls, skypes, writes aerograms, has inputs to whatsapp, facebook etc. etc.) there are provisions to declare that person dead, usually after x number of years. This information is usually found in the local estate/property laws.
https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-mean-when-someone-says-Youre-dead-to-me