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Grass Is Always Greener On The Other Side!!

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  1. BDivya

    BDivya Platinum IL'ite

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    Always grass is greener on the other side!

    Like many working ladies, I too wished to be a SAHM and I was fortunate enough to try the other role for few months.

    I took a break from my tiring career and back breaking commute to and fro to office. I was very much excited with the very thought that I get to stay back at home after the other members of the family left! I had many plans running in my mind as to how effectively use this short oppurtunity to cherish for a life time.

    I started observing all the other 'blessed' SAHMs in my apartment and started my enquiry on their day to day activities and most importantly how do they spend their leisure time when the husbands and kids are not around. I was very clear what I wanted from this break-ample 'me-time'.

    So after lots of research and observations/stalking of my neighbouring 'blessed' ladies, I jotted down the list of things that I should be doing in this time frame. Most of the items were either directly or indirectly related to my 'me-time'! So now the list was ready and I have planned my days in advance so much that now I was very desperate for the last day in office.

    Finally the last day arrived, and I jumped in joy and secretly prayed that this short break must last long! The evening of my last day in office, I celebrated by giving a break to cooking dinner and ordered food online. I was happy on how the evening went as per my 'break-plans'! The night I was unable to sleep properly, two reasons, one- I was too much excited for executing my plans from the very next day and two- I was already having a guilty feeling of taking a career break and thinking of its impacts!

    The first-break day, with all the anxiety and excitement I couldnt sleep well the night before, so I ended up waking late and all my chores were delayed more than the usual routine. But who cares, I dint have the tension of booking a cab to office, dint have the tension of packing those lunch boxes, dint have the tension to complete everything before 8.30am! So I was nice on myself and let myself enjoy the delay. Because of my break-plans-delay my husband reached office 30 minutes late, dropped my kid in the school by 15 mins delay and my breakfast/lunch were delayed by 50 mins than usual. I dint get time for any me-time activities like TV/shows/series/workouts! I found myself doing chores like drying clothes, loading the washing machine, watering plants, folding the clothes, cleaning the kitchen/dining table/sink, clearing the dustbin, organising the toys spread all over, making grocery lists, buying them, etc. Phew! By the time I did this, I was already late for picking up my kid from school. After pickup, preparation of his snacks, feeding them, cleaning and clearing the left overs and by the time I was thinking to do a little workout, it was already time for dinner preparation. I ended up again in kitchen cooking dinner, then eating, then feeding dinner to my kid, again clearing/cleaning the kitchen and I was so tired after all this, that the only thing I wanted to do now was sleep!

    Again another day and same routine, this lasted throughout the break and finally it was time for me to join back work. And now I was not the same person before the break, I had gained 2 kilos! When I was in the break, I wanted to join back work and when I really joined back, all I wanted to do was to repeat my break!

    I realized- Grass is always greener on the other side!!
     
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  2. Suja9

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    Nice write up Divya.. I liked the below lines
    :lol::thumbup:
     
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    thank u:) I guess this is the normal thought every working woman gets..
     
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    Good one..I can relate to it completely as I experienced both the situations
     
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    thank u:)
     
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    This is what happens @BDivya
    After several of such breaks, I have decided never to take a break from my career. Of course a long leave is great. But never to stay at home as a home maker again.
     
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    This has cleared so many things going on in my mind now .
    Thanks Divya !
    And hats off to all the ladies ... all of them irrespective if their status ... working , non working ! Managing :)
    It's so tuff to be women !
     
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    I agree, being a SAHM is just as challenging as being a working mom - but in different ways. The workload isn't less, but having a social life is definitely more doable being a SAHM. Now I just have work friends and no time to plan playdates or weekend gettogethers.
     
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