There are very many posts on IL about bad husbands and bad in-laws; sadly there are fewer posts about good husbands (and good in-laws!) It is the nature of the forum I think? My husband has his faults, but he treats both myself and his parents fairly. It helps that his mother is a generally nice person, though she has her faults too, just like evryone. He is not perfect, but he is a good person and genuinely trying to do his best for everybody. Thank gods he is a rational person and able to think independently! He isn't very romantic, (but he takes good care of the family)...maybe some would find fault with that. He isn't overly helpful cleaning the house, (but he will fix and maintain all the house things that need fixing)...I could criticise that but then again, I'm not going up on the roof to fix the chimney cap, so I'm ok with that. He says "thank you" for dinner and notices when I have done special work to make his or ILs life easier. He is not perfect, and I am not perfect, but after 18 years I think that we have accepted each others not perfectness. Marraige is compromise and a willingness for BOTH people to look after the other persons welfare. That will take you through the decades. If that is lacking, then it is no marraige, just a bad financial/ living arrangement. And we all deserve better than that! My DH is a good man and I am thankful for that! Anybody else have a good husband? They deserve a salute!