In one of the popular tamil weeklies, there is a column ' My Diary' , where the readers put forth their issues - somewhat on the lines of relationship forum of IL. The three most suitable responses/ advise are rewarded. Myself knowing tamil to the extent of read only , just go thro' casually. This one particular query really had me stunned! I am reproducing the post verbatim translated into english. QUOTE: That marriages are made in heaven is something i feel is humbug. Because of that i think i haveBeen dealt a bad blow in life. I got married at the age of 34 only. My husband is elder to me by one year only. My in laws felt for me being an orphan and chose me. I however did not feel any difference. My aunt had brought me up normally, so i did not like rather got irritated with the over affection and love showered on me by my inlaws. From the first day of marriage i wanted to go separate and my husband accordingly set up a home for us near his sister’s place. They did not disturb me in any way, even so i did not feel like i was living alone with my husband. The fact that i did not like to mingle with his sister, mother was often a cause for our fights. Because of this , I started going and staying with my aunt frequently. Meantime i got pregnant , went to my aunts house for delivery and now, my son is 2 years old and I am continuing to stay at my aunts home. I have not gone to my home even though my husband has been calling me. I don’t want any of his Relations. I want to live with him alone. Till he realises this, I am not going to talk to him. I don’t feel this decision is wrong also. Myself, my husband, my family , my kid- this is what i want – what is the problem I don’t understand. You people have only to tell me whether what I am thinking is correct. Please tell me friends what I should do next. UNQUOTE What i felt was that, when both have got married at an age when they are fully mature and worldly wise etc, what prevented them from deciding the type of person, wanting to have nothing to do with any extending family etc made known before the marriage? On top of all this, they have brought a child into this situation. What sort of environment / values will such a child be subjected to? It frightens me to think what more complications will unfurl in the marriage market in future years! Your thoughts on this please and whether there is a solution for such issues.