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Gabfest: And Thereby Hangs A Tail

Discussion in 'Education & Personal Growth' started by Cimorene, Jan 9, 2017.

  1. Viswamitra

    Viswamitra IL Hall of Fame

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    I am so happy to know that you started so early to write a letter to your son. I wrote my first letter when my son moved out to live in the campus to let him know how much we miss him but expressed understanding that he was on an important mission. The letter expressed the distractions I had encountered as young man on my own in the college hostel and requested him to stay focused on the principle purpose. I expressed understanding that he might have so much on his plate but requested him to come home whenever possible and give a call when he finds time.
     
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    You need to be banned. Not by IL but by the restaurant for having food on your own unaccompanied by any friend or a family member. :chatter:
     
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    Finally, truth comes out in the positivity thread. You pretend that you did it to please elders but deep inside, you wanted to preserve all those memories. You can run but can't hide and your words are like GPS showing where your mind is! Well done my friend. :thumbup:
     
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    :hello:Exchange of e mails communication, servers, charging batteries all these increasing at alarming proportions in contributing to raise in average global temperature. Here is an image from toda’s the Hindu Chennai edition.
    Thanks & Regards.

    upload_2019-5-19_17-54-29.jpeg
     
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    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I'm sure your son treasures those letters Viswa. I wish I still had the ones I received from my dad. I think my parents might have them somewhere. I am trying to get my son to write to his grandparents once a month. Whatsapp video chats are useless since all he does is mumble that too in an accent they barely understand. Most conversations begin and end with how are you and I am doing fine. I also have him write letters to his aunts and uncles to thank them for the birthday gifts they send. I'm hoping the letters keep the connection alive until he grows up and forges deeper bonds with them.
     
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    @Gauri03 .....a handwritten note but instead I got to see a BuJo page title! How unfair! :smash2:
     
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    @Novalis
    I am a fan of your writing
     
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    :hello:That offers an opportunity to your well wishers to greet you :dev14:. One from me too.
    God and or Christ - says "no one wish Me happy birth day with 5 kg choco cake and candles ."
     
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    Hermitcrab,

    Long ago, a buddy eyed my frenetic texting to another friend in which I used the word "excellent" on something common.

    He nudged: why are you typing "excellent" rather than represent accurately your feeling. Are you really feeling excellent about it? Don't water down heavy-weights like "excellent" in your speech because one day when you feel intensely excellent about something that word might have lost its significance in your overused diction.

    I backtracked and typed: "distinctive". Not overly flattersome but genuinely appreciated. Yes, what the other person sent was pleasantly different but not superior.

    I just lucked out in life to have such nudgy friends.

    If Novalis were to write about Novalis she would say: "Hmm, intermingles American and British spellings. Not too consistent. Screecchy lot! But when she rattles away, ekdam mast and wide-heartedly she communicates. She is tactful in her churchilllian 'ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip'. The woman can talk! Can talk like her head is on fire. But that fire is her trademark warmth. Overall, entertaining and bearable like a creaky but sounding jukebox!"

    I just don't fancy a formal 'thank you'. I would dredge up anything to avoid that situational thank you. I care for what you wrote to me but I also care for the thought behind your motivated intervention which the stiff formalities undermine ..I love your (fan) distinction of my writing here.
     
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    @Gauri03, I can resonate well with that emotion deep down experiencing lack of love in the initial stages of marriage. I am glad you were able to a certain extent repair that relationship through your generous mindset. My wife faced similar situation from my mother and she was able to overcome that only because of me being so understanding of her emotions. It is always hard to walk that tight rope of respecting those much deserved emotions without interfering with the relationship between the son and mother. You did extremely well managing the situation.
     
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