I have a strange situation during which I dont know what to do,I have a very annoying,unbearable,many many negative qualities MIL.I truly believe that there is no human on this earth who can spend a day with her without getting depressed or frustated!!I have encountered innumerable such times with her,I have screamed,I have given the silent treatment I have done everything that normal DILs would have done.I have thought and researched on the best way to handle these situations and annoying things she does which I will be posting in another thread. But in this post I wish to discuss another problem,since my MIL is unbearable to live with naturally people around her fight with her ( I am the top 1 ) but there are times,once a month that she and my husband fights I think thats when she knows that I am not going to react to her she focuses on my husband.Those fights are terrible both scream at the top of their voice,I cannot control my happiness (I am a sadist) that my husband is actually standing upto her! I usually dont know what to say to him during those times,I want to say "see now you can imagine how I feel with your mother" "Sometimes I feel like patching them up (I am a good person)" Usually I just shut up and leave him alone but I love my husband and I cannot see him so sad and frustated,me just being there is not enough,its time I say something that will cheer him up but at the same time I want him to understand how I feel when she annoys me.I need help,what exactly do I say that will make him love me more. He is always advising me to spend more time with his mother,do what she says,dress whatever way she likes,he hates me when I say a bad word against her,Its been hard getting through to him and very rarely I get opportunities when he fights and I dont want to let these go without using it to my benefit.