Flirting Or Cheating

lakshya2018 · Feb 11, 2019

Hi ILties ,

I need to your advises and comments over my problem in my married life. We both are working and I'm pregnant now. I was at my parent home due to health issues. My husband talking flirting with other woman. Its just the normal message but not sure i can ignore or cut now itself.

My husband is very caring and supportive. Ours is love marriage and during our courtship also we dont spend much time in chatting. after marriage no chats as we are together and even he dont call or message me when i visit my parent home. If i call/text him, there will be no reply from his side. sometimes he will say he s busy in work.

this time also i texted him many days but no reply from him for a single message. When i return to inlaw home. i casually checked and found this chat with a lady. Before concluding anything my first question when he dont have time for me then y he messaged her? what is more important than me.

their conversation is not too personal. My husband asked her to change good DP of her in whatsapp and she changed it. no more conversation found dont whether deleted or they haven't chatted. other mesages are related to work. She want govt job and asking my husband to help her.

Is this serious issue or Im confusing?... Can i ask that lady about it? Please help.

Anusha2917 · Feb 11, 2019

I'm confused too.. And your feelings are totally justifiable as that's what any woman would feel at this point.
If you are in good friendly terms with him jokingly ask him (say for eg when you see him having his phone in hand or you see him messaging someone) why he didn't get back to your message and what's keeping him so busy other than sending u a small text message ? Buy given that you are pregnant don't get into more argument or fight at this point of time .
It's most likely that with an intention to help the girl with a govt job he would have replied to her. Sometimes men feel if at all they don't offer help to ladies something big mistake they are doing. They will go all the way to help ! In your case he's taking it casually "okay she will understand if I don't reply ". It looks like that only for me

Anusha2917 · Feb 11, 2019

And I just read the last line now. No dear you shouldn't be approaching the lady now. As long as you are in good terms with hubby he should be the first one u confront or ask if at all you plan to ask him anything.

Sunshine04 · Feb 12, 2019

lakshya2018 said: ↑

Before concluding anything my first question when he dont have time for me then y he messaged her? what is more important than me.
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What answer did he give for this question??
Dont talk with the other woman now??
His asking her to change her do is not appropriate.
Just wait for now and keep an eye on his chats with her.

Sunshine04 · Feb 12, 2019

Sunshine04 said: ↑

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lakshyasara · Feb 12, 2019

Anusha2917 said: ↑

I'm confused too.. And your feelings are totally justifiable as that's what any woman would feel at this point.
If you are in good friendly terms with him jokingly ask him (say for eg when you see him having his phone in hand or you see him messaging someone) why he didn't get back to your message and what's keeping him so busy other than sending u a small text message ? Buy given that you are pregnant don't get into more argument or fight at this point of time .
It's most likely that with an intention to help the girl with a govt job he would have replied to her. Sometimes men feel if at all they don't offer help to ladies something big mistake they are doing. They will go all the way to help ! In your case he's taking it casually "okay she will understand if I don't reply ". It looks like that only for me
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Thanks for ur valuable comment.
Yes. Not only me. He treat his family members like mom , sister. He don't show much care when we need it. He Dont show but he do care. But I dont feel talking to this lady as good that too when I'm not around. Usually he speak with everyone in front me. i know his phone password. No secrets. Still something is .... dont know how to express.

lakshyasara · Feb 12, 2019

Anusha2917 said: ↑

And I just read the last line now. No dear you shouldn't be approaching the lady now. As long as you are in good terms with hubby he should be the first one u confront or ask if at all you plan to ask him anything.
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Yes. i agree. i should ask him.

lakshyasara · Feb 12, 2019

Sunshine04 said: ↑

What answer did he give for this question??
Dont talk with the other woman now??
His asking her to change her do is not appropriate.
Just wait for now and keep an eye on his chats with her.
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Thanks for ur advise.
I didnt speak with him after that. he asked why are u not talking with me. What i did wrong ... i just asked her to set dp .. wht wrong in it.

He speak with normally when we are together but when away he dont chat. I asked many times he doesnt gave proper answer.

From my comments , you know i'm really in confusion.

lakshya2018 · Feb 12, 2019

Hi , Both lakshyasara and lakshya2018 are my accounts.

rachaputi · Feb 12, 2019

Why to care about her DP

What if you ask some random guy same question??

But one more problem is he will start hiding or delete it from now onwards if you stretch this.
So, don't express your anger , express the pain.

lakshyasara said: ↑

Thanks for ur advise.
I didnt speak with him after that. he asked why are u not talking with me. What i did wrong ... i just asked her to set dp .. wht wrong in it.

He speak with normally when we are together but when away he dont chat. I asked many times he doesnt gave proper answer.

From my comments , you know i'm really in confusion.
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