First Kid At What Age?

I was a .Net developer in India. But after moving to Australia and with a gap of 3 years and changing technologies it was hard to get into the market.
So i started my career as an Application Support Tech and moved on to be a Business Analyst.
I would never have a job if i stuck to .net dev role. Market is heavily competetive and my choice is to have a career that allows me to spend time with kids and DH. So being a dev was not an option as it requires me to be technically strong(which means i must study each day - i choose to use that time for family instead)
It all comes down to what you want out of your life and what support system you have.
We dont have anyone here in Aus, but we work with a schedule and kids got used to that as well.

 

Sorry to say you are overthinking about age gap. You are 28 and your dh is 32y+ pretty young.. 4 year age gap is very common in Indian arranged marriages . If age gap is > 10 years it may be a big difference. If you are worried so much consult a gynaecologist. They will clarify your doubts. I know many parents with babies in their 40s or close to 50s.

As a husband and father he has to be responsible one. Age has nothing to do with it. If he is busy with job, he can take paternity leave. Whether your dh help you or not, ultimately as a mother you will have to do more than him, by default. Please read IL forum, for stories. Overthinking kills happiness. Dont worry too much thinking about age gap.

 

Well everyone does say have a kid when you feel it is the right time which is true in one way but it does not change the fact that as maternal age increases the chances of baby having complications like Down syndrome etc increases.

So just because someone says I had a perfectly healthy baby at 40 so go for it does not mean that you will too.of course there may be complications even in younger moms but the odds of having a healthier baby is on their side.

So think everything through before you make a decision.

 

I had my first kid when I was 30 and im currently pregnant with my 2nd kid. Im 33 years old right now. our 2nd kid wasn't planned but we decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. My inlaws wanted a boy because they are always under the impression that boys are better than girls. I didnt want 2nd kid because Im scared of having a girl child, but I wanted a sibling for my older child , so I decided to go ahead. Lets see how this goes.

 

I had my first child when I was 19 and my husband was 21 at that time.