First Big Fight..first Anniversary..plz Advice :(

ITs ok dear. Let it go. Know what, plan it as a special one...say the second year anniversary or something. I know, I keep cribbing to my H about the same thing, why were you so lenient earlier and suddenly changed your attitude...his reply is that the frustration was getting bottled up those days....ahhhhhh.....so don't let your H get his frustration up. Talk it out. Trust me, fighting and getting it over is better than letting it brew and simmer. When you finally get a taste of it is very strong and tough to forget.

Let it go dear. Marriage is all about give and take. LEt him get away with this. Catch hold of him next time. We women have loooooooong memories. So we can always get back to this point later. For now though, don't make it big.

think of it this way....what if he really didn't want to go or take the previous vacations? Maybe he was not really able to tell this to you at all. Think and see why he thought of backing out. For now though, give it a rest!

As I said earlier, try and talk to him about his day, give your inputs on things. Ask his opinions NOT his advise on stuff. Involve him in the day to day activities.

Another thing is don't do things like not talking to him, not answering his call....childish stuff.....He will begin to treat you like a child. Worst case, he might pick this bad habit form you. Mine did..i mean pick it up form me. Now I have nobody else to blame but me!

btw...have a beautiful wonderful anniversary!!

 

experience is the best teacher!

 

It happens dear, me too sometimes behave childish & ziddi. No issues but not every time we should do that, as the hubbies shud too have there time to become the same. This is okay as long as it doesn't affect your relation seriously. I feel good u realise the same in time & he will too, stay Calm & Cool.
Have a Happy & Superb Anniversary Dear. You never know there could be a surprise Anniversary Gift for you.
Have a blast.

 

Oh go easy on yourself. This is your first big fight. You identified the problem. You are half way towards resolving it.

 

Identifying the Problem ; Then accepting that this much is my role in creating the problem, this mere acceptance itself half way towards resolving it.

 

@Rakhii

Went through your two years back old threads.

Very interesting to note how your marriage went to almost the stage of split. Worth appreciating is, how you introspected and accepted at least 50 % of the blame on your own role in creating the problems.

This acceptance has saved your marriage. Wish, many here learn lessons from you, in accepting their own mistakes first, rather than putting 100 % blame on their partners only for every wrong going on in their marriage !

These two years, you lived away from him , some thing like a trial separation ? Sorry, could not find this information from your threads. If you had already written on it, somewhere, then provide the URL link of that only. Thanks.

 

Hey,

I was just wondering do you think he is trying to surprise you with something really special and he just doesn't want you to get a hint. Just a thought being positive!!!