Finest Posts - July 2014 Nominations

My dear Angellic
First things first. My partner and buddy Kamla has raised a doubt about accepting the nomination of Bonjour's post #58 in the thread http://www.indusladies.com/forums/singles-world/256471-living-before-marriage-right-wrong.html for the reason that the Forum where the thread is posted is a restricted-access area. I agree with her.

Coming to your seeking our views in the matter because of our age and experience, let me confess that it is the very age and experience that stand in the way of our expressing our views openly! What do you expect to hear from a man who is in his seventies? Even assuming that I may be a supporter of this innovation in a man-woman relationship, I would find it tough to express it openly particularly when I am wedded to one woman for the last forty five years and we adore each other! In accordance with the prevailing customs then, ours was purely an arranged marriage and initially we had several incompatibilities which appeared insurmountable. We worked our way out slowly and what started as 'agreeing to disagree' in several areas slowly became 'I agree with it because you want it that way'. I am surprised at this total transformation that we could achieve in our relationship.

I have seen so many new changes coming into marital relationship. These changes have come about because the people felt the need for such changes. Living in Relationship is a kind of probation. If people feel that when such a practice is followed in professional careers, what is wrong in adopting it is a more serious relationship area, it cannot be faulted. Conservatives may abhor any experiments in relationship but the progressive minded will not hesitate to support them if such experiments finally result in the development of beautiful relationships that last a life time. Are not orthodox families permitting divorces among their children which were once a great taboo?

I do agree that matrimony is a divine bond. One man, one woman relationship is what the scriptures prescribe. But if the parties to such a divine bond are not committed, there is nothing that can save the relationship. Further when parents see their daughters undergoing great torture in a relationship, they themselves initiate divorce proceedings. After all, a happy and peaceful married life is the goal of every one. When the couple goes through the marriage rituals making profound promises, the intention is to stick to them. But if the evolving conditions make the promises extremely difficult to keep, a break occurs. Is it a breach of promise? I wonder!

I can only say one thing. No one can be judgemental about this issue.
Sri

 

Viji Aunty,
A thought provoking thread indeed! Thanks for nominating. I loved it

 

My dear Viji
Thank you for your nomination of Laks09's fascinating FB to Reshmi's http://www.indusladies.com/forums/w...be-working-women-homemaker-5.html#post3314197
When I first glanced through Laks09's FB, my monumental ignorance surfaced! Yes, I was royally stumped by the acronym SAHM! First I thought that she might have misspelt SHAM but knowing her flair for the language, I knew that it could not be so. Then I accessed the dictionary of acronyms and found that it stood for Stay at Home Mom and I thanked the Internet for saving me. I am sure that a man in his seventies can be forgiven for such knowledge gaps.

Coming to her FB, I just loved it. She has outlined the quintessence of self esteem in the words 'You can be a top notch CEO of a company and still be a doormat behind closed doors or you can be a day labourer and still be the most respected woman on the planet in your own house.' Very eloquent indeed! Hers is a very valuable supplement to Reshmi's OP. No member will be left in any doubt after going through this FB of Laks09.
Sri

 

My dear RGS
Thank you for nominating Iyerviji's http://www.indusladies.com/forums/s...ction/256944-may-we-different-each-other.html
Being a person who sails in the same boat, I know exactly what Viji means but I must give it to her that she has put a lot of feelings into what she says about the companionship at our age. The opening quote is not quite relevant to our age group. I can't distinguish between my plate and my wife's in the dim light of a candle! Nor walking along the beach will be conducive for any loving exchanges as we struggle to keep our breath while walking. Obviously, the quote is meant for people half our age!

But I agree with everything else that Viji says though I am not so sentimental as to wish dying together! But I agree totally on one thing. It is far more difficult for a man to keep his bearings after the passing away of his wife than vice versa. But nothing is in our hands! Just que sera, sera!
Sri