Long story... grab a juice and read? Please note I might sound very judgemental on the people I am writing but I am not complaining or putting myself on the horse. I just think I need to be brutally clear at least here , you will see in my phrases. Husband: A good man, not physically or verbally abusive, caring and loving... but I feel its conditional(Like some people show conditional love on pets, when there is a move to make or someone had to be let go, it will be the pets first). He enjoys being loved and love others I like this zeal of his; but once his parents and sister come into the picture he needs to satisfy them and his loving nature takes a back seat. He would not notice if he is hurting anyone or not in his mental flood of pleasing his family.