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Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by pmandy, Dec 18, 2013.

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  1. Dec 21, 2013 #31
    pmandy

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    Thanks to all for your suggestions. I will try to listen dad and give him a patient ear.
     
    pmandy, Dec 21, 2013
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    Deepanv

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    Hey.. Now, do not have any hard feelings for your mother after hearing all this. Probably, your dad wants to just share somethings with you. Does your sister know of it? Good Luck.
     
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    No. Dad did nt share with sister as she can not visit our home too frequently. Also he told me that he did not want to share with me or my sister. Though I did not listen him completely, i came to knw so many things which i mentioned in my posts.
     
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  4. Mar 22, 2014 #34
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    I tried to listen to dad. But there is not much change in situation.
     
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    shantana

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    dear OP, what is ur dad's intention on telling abt the affair now, after all these years?
    did u manage to hear out ur dad fully?
     
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  6. Mar 22, 2014 #36
    yellowmango

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    pmandy,how was the relationship between your parents ...was your dad a caring husband? Did they have some major issues that caused friction?Is it possible that your mom just talked to that man and allowed him to come home and talk just to make your dad jealous ? Sometimes people do that...sometimes they do it just to hurt their partner for the wrongs they feel were done to them. We tend to see parents only as parents....not as a man and a woman.
     
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    That is what confusing about his behavior. Why all of sudden now? It was something unexpected for me. Initially i stopped him. But after suggestion fron this forum, I managed to listen him fully.
     
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    yellowmango

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    What did your dad expect you to do? Did he expect you to intervene before the "so called affair"started again?
     
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    No I think she will not do such things to feel him jealous. Also she was caught while talking to him. She did not do it in font of him. When she was late to reach back home, father went to see her and saw her talking. So it was not intentional. Also she was just talking so it was not something suspicious.We never found anything wrong with their relationship except few small issues.May be he wanted to share with someone.
     
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  10. Mar 22, 2014 #40
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    True...may be he just wanted to share man to man.If it was just talking...them maybe you can console him and say the same that it is just talking and may be he should try and spend more time talking to your mom.Tell him to take her out on a vacation.
     
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