Dos and Dont with indian Friends/Relative?

Hi all:wave, Though it feels good tobe friendly with our own motherland friends and relations while we r in alien land, mostly they are not feeling the same.
And my experiences with them are mostly bitter and somewhat only needs to act.
And its affecting and having more impacts than if we experience the same things in india. there we have more other people to interact and let it go of most things than here. What do you feel?

What about you experiences/lessons learned and Dos and Donts with them and to keep decent and good relationships??

 

:exactly: Me too have experienced the same. They gossips more behind the screen and behave differently without any reason. Sometimes they misunderstands more and give us a 'Bad' tag. we have to bare that, even without knowing the reasons.

 

Yes, we have to accept this positive side of it too. But the boundary line we need to put is so delicate. All the thing their is only offensive and defensive behavior. Some people will be taking overadvantages, and we have to be in a difficult situation, without knowing to say 'no'. Thou, infact these are all very common thing, its impact is more while we are living outside india. Mainly the relationships are more vulnerable, expectations are more, even small things looks bigger and so obviously its hard to maintain, or it goes on very very formally with fake smiles, with more bitterness inside heart.
But finally as you said, we need at-least that fake relationships and fake smiles in an alien country.

 

Dos and Dont as of me:
1. From the beginning itself keep and maintain a safe and decent distance. if we mingle more at first and then find it difficult to continue , its hard to increase the distance, or we have to pay some bitterness for that. So its better to be at a distance from beginning and we can somewhat increase or decrease it after knowing more about the people.
2. Its better to avoid people who dont have any moral values in their characters. thou we are in need of atleast some fake friends. relationships with people dont have atleast minimum moral values will have only negative effects than positive. so its better avoid or keep max. distance with such people.
3. Dont share any personal matters.