Everyone, My dad and mom retired from govt service and have been living in India with their pension (may be 35000 rs / month may be) and we have land and some revenue from it. Parents dont have a luxurious life style but I believe they have some money to give away (like buy gold for grand children, they always gift gold for the relatives' wedding etc and whenever I send some money my dad tells there is no need to send it). This is not all the time, but more like whenever needed basis. So the scenario is my mom and dad never shared their financial situation to me or my sister. Also, I don't know if my parents have any money in bank. I know my mom has gold. I have been living in the US for almost 10 years now. My sister has been living with my parents all the time even after married (we all support that, because it will be good when they need each other). My sister doesn't have a job. Her husband is sort of well off (has a reasonably good job, has land and couple shop spaces that are rented out. But they (sis, BIL and kid) have been living with my parents (living expenses on my parents, and they dont contribute and no one has issues so far). So parents are getting older now and they need more medical care. The question here is, is it a good idea to send money to take the medical expenses of the parents? haven't asked me any money yet. I know I could do it from a moral stand point, but our financial situation is not great, but it is not bad either. 10 years down the road, if I need money for college admission of the kid, or anything else, I will not have much support from home or from my husband's home. This is my husband's take on it - since my sister and husband lives with them and the house and the land around the house is for her anyway, we shouldn't send any money. If needed they can sell the other land (this is of lesser value, but it is still a lot of money. if not sold this probably will be mine) and meet the expenses, but not send any money from here. I felt sad, but he do have a point. they might not have to sell it all to meet the expenses. But we know these medical bills can be huge. We are not there yet, and it will all be fine, but it is just killing me not knowing what is going on. if I ask my mom or dad, they don't give out a lot of information or they just change the subject. I don't want to send a lot of money if they dont need it, as I need money for mortgage and such and I started working only 1 year ago. Being in grad school for years, DH also started working 3 years ago. We are in our 30s and we still have to build up our savings yet. What would you guys advice?