Does My Husband Really Love Me

I'm silent reader of this forum. First time posting here. Thinking i wil get good advices from Ilites. Please help

we are married for 3 years. We live in a nuclear family and both are working, have a kid. My husband takes care me well when i'm sick, when i was pregnant. And after kid born He tries to share house hold responsibilities.

The main issue with him he has never shared any financial details with me.
If i ask in nice way he would remain silent and dont answer any of my questions. If i fight, he would say he know wat needs to be done. He has responsibility with me and my kid, so he will take care and do right things at time. He dont need any one's idea not even his parents. But thats a lie. His parents know everything and he has a sister who is divorced and have a child. I suspect this is the reason. I have no issues that if he spends for his sister but he should let me know. Initially he has asked to put all my salary into his account in a very nice way. But i was very firm that i should have financial independence and not spend for any household expenses. Even now he used to ask about my savings sometimes i give him a vague answer. Mostly i reply back that you are not sharing, i will also be the same.He would remain silent.

Is this approach right?

My other issue is my MIL. She is a person who yells at almost everybody, showing cunning nature. She dont even talk to her own sisters. People would scare to talk to her. She replies back that harshly. With me initially she was fine. After seeing her son behaving nice way with me. She got jealous and strted her drama. Those dramas worked with my husband once or twice only as my husband know her nature well. She has yelled at me also, but i dont reply back to her because it is tough to talk to her. Recently my mom spoke in my mil house about the rituals going on is not a right way in front her relatives. They joined with my mom as no body likes her. After a week i called her on a sunday she yelled at me like anything. She told if u hav no interest living here, go where ever u r intersted. We are not happy after having u. I dint reply much to her. jus cried and kept the phone. Then my husband who was near to me just consoled me that she is like that only na who gets tensed frequently. so leave this matter. U dont need to talk to anybody in my family.
And im sure after few days he will ask me to call and talk to her. But now he wants me to come to mil house for a vaction atleast four days. Only then things will become proper. im scared again she will create a issue and my husband would remain silent in front of her and then would console me privately. I cant face any more humiliation from her.

So i need badly need suggestions for:

1.Does my husband acts in a smart way that if any issue, he makes my mouth shout and does not love me the way he says. He is kind of person that talks well when he want anything. Is he doing the same to me.
2. How should i maintain relationship with my in laws. I dont like to talk to them at all. Because if she talks harshly i want to reply back to her. But not able to talk back.

Ofcourse my husband would fight with me if i dont visit them. But i can always use my weapon to say that i want to go back to my parents place. Because after using this weapon i see change in his attitude.

And After some days he will pin point that he did so much things for me.

But worried that it would separate me from his heart.

How to handle this situation in a smart way. Please help!!!

 

Actually he wants me to spend my salary to house hold expense. But i was very firm that i should not do that. So will spend minimal. And talk to him in a nice way that im saving for our future. We can have good retirement life. He beleives me in this.

 

Ok. Then please suggest me wat u ll do wen u r at my place. Hw do u take care of house hold expenses. The whole salary is it. Wen u hav zero knowledge about ur husband detalus. I spend one fourth of my salary for my child daycare and helper. All these arrangements he never accepted initially due to his mom advice. And used to yell at me if i ask such things. Only my mom was helping me initially. Then for 10 days he took paternity leave as it ll expire soon for taking care of baby. And he thought it is very simple as his mom says. Then he understood the house wrkload and was fine with helper arrangement. I had my salary to take care of these expenses. Wen i got my job he immediately said to give his account details as salary account details. I was like so i ll not even wat my savings also. Vut dint say talk much to him. As he will scold me.But luckily my office hr dint accept this. They clearly told it should be in employee name. So he dint hav choice. Even im not sure about the smart way to handle this scenario

 

Thanks for ur replies.
@SGBV ,@yellowmango ,@chocolate need ur inpits as well pls