Experience often does produce wisdom, and wisdom is surely a help in any relationship. However for many people experience breeds not wisdom, but cynicism and bitterness. Too many people learn the wrong things from their relationship failures: they learn not to trust, not to have high expectations about a relationship lasting, and not to trust too much of themselves. In truth, we can learn from both failure and success. The ensuing cycle of increasing success protects them from falling into cynicism and destructive, self-protective behaviours. A negative experience can teach us what not to do. A positive experience can confirm that we are on the right track. Both are valuable lessons. No one would consider successive failed ventures as a reason for confidence the next time around. On the contrary, most of us would say a history of repetitive failure is more likely to be predictive of future failure. Why? Because repetitive failure indicates an inability (or unwillingness) to reflect on and learn from experience. Here’s the point: the real teacher is not the experience itself, but the reflection and self-examination that should go with it. Experience, negative or positive, only really helps us if we reflect on it, learn the right lessons from it, and change the right behaviours as a result. While our own experience certainly has a way of getting our attention, it’s not the only way to learn.We can also learn from the experience of others. . If you’ve started thinking about having a determined mind to avoid becoming like your messed-up addicted friend – congratulations! You’re learning from someone else’s experience. Whether it’s our own or someone else’s experience, learning from experience is just an academic exercise if it doesn’t translate into a change in behaviour. Whether the experience was positive or negative, a success or failure, if we don’t reflect on it effectively, experience will fail to teach, or worse, lead us the wrong way. jayasala42
Experience does teach us. In final analysis. what we are left with is, experience. Someone told me if you commit something wrong for the first time, it is Mistake. If you repeat it, it is blunder. However some mistakes are worth repeating like helping ungrateful people again and again. Who knows they may improve. Experience can be both good and bad. And both teach us.
Before incandescent lamp to light, it is said Thomas Alwa Edison experimented and encountered over ten thousand times and with each he reflected and learnt how and what not to be done. He gave answer like this when his friend asked why he pursued experimenting despite so many failures. This proves your golden statements in the post. Thank you for thought provoking read in the morning. Continue to teach us. Regards.