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Divorce Support Group In Bay Area, California

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by kavya007, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. kavya007

    kavya007 Silver IL'ite

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    Hi,

    I am currently in the process of divorce. I am ending a 16 year abusive marriage. Thankfully my partner has agreed to divorce mediation and we are taking that route keeping the best interests of my child in mind. I am looking to join a support group in Bay Area, California preferably in Pleasanton. If that is not possible I am also open to connecting with folks online. Although divorce is something I strongly wanted I feel very lonely and depressed going through the process alone. I feel a lot of regret in losing the best years of my life.

    Regards,
    Kavya.
     
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  2. Sandycandy

    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    Kavya, there should be meet up groups (single and divorced ) in the Bay Area. You can also choose a desi / non desi group pertaining to your interest in music, arts etc. and that should be a good way to keep yourself busy .

    Going through the initial divorce process is very tough and depressing . But it gets better from then on. I have friends that have gone through it and they are happier now . But I do remember their initial struggles , doubts and regrets . Talk to friends and family that support your decision .

    Pick yourself up and try to focus on the life ahead. Who knows the best years of your life may start right now. Happy new year ! I wish you strength and lots of happiness ! Take care !
     
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    rkofficial New IL'ite

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    Dearest Kavya,
    Take a bow for having the courage to walk out of an abusive relationship. You have done what is right for yourself and your child. Kudos to you dear for doing that!
    Now, having done that, it is important to figure out the journey ahead. Paying no attention to your mind that will keep pulling you in hundred different directions, alternating between the past and the future, try answering these questions with absolute honesty - What kind of a Legacy would you like to leave behind as an Individual? as a Mother? What would you do if you were not afraid?
    Nothing happens without a reason Kavya. Have absolute Faith that the whole universe is by your side, working for you, supporting you. You are never ever alone. Never ever.
     
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    DDream Finest Post Winner

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    Kavya,
    You are a strong woman. Appreciate your courage to walk out of an abusive marriage. I have heard that initial days will be tough. But try to be busy, active and try to enjoy what you like most. Try to be with people or meet new people or engage in some social activities than staying in your home.

    Hope you will find support groups if not you can also try counselling / therapy for yourself, may be even for the child (in school they provide counselling for kids with separated parents, ask class teacher)

    Past is a ghost. Try not to think about it. We cannot do anything about it. It is quite natural to feel depressed. But think it as your achievement. Not all woman can do it. You set a new standard for your kid and gave a message that abuse is not acceptable.

    But I am sure this new year 2018 will bring you lot of peace and happiness to you and your kid. We dont know what life has in store in for us- May be pleasant surprises. Try to be positive. Enjoy each moment of this new freedom and life. You are going to start a new innings of your life. Be strong

    Take care of yourself well. Wishing you all the best.
     
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    I think there is a secret group on facebook. Single brown mommies. That might help.
     
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    Hi Kavya

    Aspha is right , there is secret group in facebook and they have all mommies and some lawyer as well. You should try to find them. It might help you too as I am there as well with different name.

    Saheli
     
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    @kavya007 I must say it was a shock seeing this thread from you.

    I am unsure if you remember me from way back when I posted in this very forum! You are one strong woman to get out of a long-term marriage. I hope you are in a better place now.

    Take care...
     

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