Hi all, My DH and myself have difference of opinion on gifting friends and relatives. If someone gifts me say about 1000 RS, I will return similar amount gift or little more than that, definitely not less than what they did. This goes for all occasions. Sometimes we gift very expensive gifts like gold for close family and cousins, aunts , uncles. DH has rendered help financially to his sister, uncle, aunty and cousins. I have never said no. But now we have Decided to help based on medical condition only. Not showering gifts to extended family on every trip. Now comes the headache, one of DH cousin had a baby recently. DH wants to send expensive and heavy (in terms of kg) gifts like stroller or high chair, baby swing and other baby items from US. The shipping cost is so high. I told him we will send dress and other few things. Less than 150$. DH is not agreeing , on anger I said his cousin gifted only one dress for my child , why should we spend so much and also shipping to India. His cousin'smom aunty wants to show off. She is pestering dh. It's been the usual my DH always wants to gift costlier than what they did. I totally don't agree for expensive gifts unless the person is nice and appreciates your gift doesn't expect , much. DH doesn't understand says, People will be like that I'm good person I will go with good gifts. Venting.