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OP,

If your husband understands and supports you, you would be able to express your self clearly to your in-laws and get away easily. If not, you should be tactful and firm/assertive. That means, all your statements should convey the right messages without being politically wrong or offensive. Though I haven't mastered this art, I know how some people convey effectively. One such person I know personally talks very sweetly showing a lot of love and concern. Her voice remains well modulated and her smile never leaves her. She says what she has to and will not allow a bargain/discussion on that. It is a great art! The opposite person boils inside but has nothing to ham about.

Keep your voice and words under control, don't bring up past or give lame excuses. Sometimes stating real facts without giving into emotions works. Later if they try to bring up the matter with your hubby, they will not have any real negative things to say about you. At the most, they may whimper that you were uncaring or you have changed. Your husband may not lose his cool over it.

 

That is why i visit them with hubby first .. just after 1 day stop at my mom's place, than what ever they say hubby also says she us spent time there , now it's her moms turn

 

Since your husband acknowledges, line is clear. Be bold and express yourself. Use the tact, don't insult them (as they are his parents) but clear the air. All the best.

 

Even generally , dont paediatrician ever talk one on one with parents in absence of the kid ?

 

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