Coping With Mil, Husband And A New Born

Instead of sending mail to ur H, can u talk to ur MIL , the same, it is lot of pain when u pump milk, but for baby sake u r doing it, it spoils when it is out of refrigerator, so tell feed baby first. If MIL is normal person she will understand it. If she is doing on purpose then u can't hep it but u feed baby and go as much as possible with ur schedule.

 

The problem is your husband OP who should be helping you out with the baby instead of expecting to be treated like a child.

Unless there is some history with mil ,I would not blame her.Taking care of a child is not easy.Some times things get overlooked.She forgot or did not have the time as she was taking care of her 'child'.She took the safe way out by making fresh .You husband should be the one feeling guilty.

Your mil has come all the way to help you people out with the baby.
Unless there is some history or if this is repeated ,I think you should not raise it with mil.Request her to feed the baby first,everything else can wait.As long as the baby is safe and healthy,little things can be overlooked.

 

OP....you are both getting on each others nerves.It is very natural to feel this way when two people are thrown together .Try to see things from her point of view because this arrangement is for the benefit of you and your child.
Your mil has left her home,her life at her home ,her independence as a home maker to help you people. She is also stuck in this as it is her grand child that needs taking care of.She is probably itching to be back at home,her life too.

Just hang in there. Keep things together.Soon your baby will be older,mil will probably be back to her home,her little kingdom.Your child would have got the best out of this arrangement .You would have got back to work without missing out too much on the job front.Your mil would have the satisfaction of being there for her grandchild when he needed care the most.Just hang in there .

 

OP,
Its so painful to see mother's milk getting wasted.Also at the same time,since you are dependent on MIL for taking care of your kid,you cannot give too many instructions to her.During the day when you are away from work,let your MIL prepare bf with formula and feed formula in between.Once you come back from work,make sure you feed your milk either directly or pumped one.That way you can make sure your kid is not deprived of your milk.

Also set a schedule for your baby like bf at 9,lunch at 12 and dinner at 7.Make sure MIL follows the schedule.

 

Dear OP,

My MIL was the same, infact is still the same, her son is her priority than the baby. My DD is 2 and even now she will make breakfast for my DH than attending to the crying baby. I had tell my DH how milk is wasted in front of MIL. Since they won't want their sons to be blamed; they will try to make an effort. Also I used to sweet talk saying I don't have to worry by DD as she is experienced and taking care of her which puts her at guilt and I used do all the cooking stating she is here to spend time with her grandkid and not help me in the kitchen. It kinda worked and she was forced to do what I wanted.