OP, twisting arm is not normal. Arguments between couples is normal but twisting arm is not normal. It comes under abuse. I have always believed that quitting (work/life etc) when things get rough is a wrong time to quit. We jump at the first available opportunity whethere is it good or not. Let things get comfortable and then decide. It always bothers me when people expect women to take care of their husbands. They do realise they are not babies right? If I were you, I would get him to a good nutritionist and comeup with a game plan of how and what to eat. He has to follow up a plan. He simply cannot eat whatever he wants outside everyday and expect his health to be OK. You are not responsible for his health; don’t hold yourself to it. He is a grown man.