Conditional Marriages- A Repost

This should be the definition of marriage instead of the ' marriage of two families' which is all about the girl loosing as much of herself after marriage to accomodate people who should be secondary .[/QUOTE]
Dear @yellowmango
I am of the opinion that decades back, arranged marriages between completely two strangers was strictly decided by the family members. It’s all a combination of luck and destiny that made or marred such marriages, and survived inspite of all the odds stacked against them - one like mine!

Agatha83

 

Dear@Amulet,

It was the main speaker of the talk show who was shouting and not the audience. But nowadays I find that in most of the reality shows, the audience performing better than those on the stage.

When even closing a simple bank account is one of the most difficult task nowadays, closure of a relationship is not as simple as you think- particularly in India. There are scores of divorce cases pending before the family court, where it is the lawyers who make the best of the situation and go smiling with plenty of cash to their banks!

Agatha83

 

Dear Jayasala,

A sound education, a good job, a career and financial security, have given the present generation of women a lot of courage, confidence with which they can lead their lives all alone. But when it comes to marriage they don’t realize that it calls for some compromises, which they fear may involve loosing their precious freedom. Major difference of opinions arise, after marriage, leading to a break up. It needs a lot of courage for leading a life as a single woman, in a conservative society which lays a lot of importance on marriage.

Agatha83

 

Dear @MalStrom,

My marriage also had the same kind of problems, where my MIL demanded a hefty dowry, 30 sovereigns of gold and a diamond earring, since she had married off all her five daughters with the same items she had demanded from us. There was a ferocious Mahabharata war between the two families for almost a month and finally ended when some good souls mediated and ended up the differences.
Only during my MILs stay with me she realised my goodness and had cordial relations with me, but still her hatred for my family members persisted till the end.

Agatha83

 

Dear Viswa,

1. The present generation of women are very intelligent when it comes to dealing with their in laws. They keep such relatives at arms length and make use of them in times of crisis.
2. I find many successful women showcasing their DH’s unflinching support for their success be it in public or private. Many men become caretakers of their children on their own, supporting their wives be it her educational pursuits or a career. As long as there is perfect understanding between the couple as to who is going to lead the family it is well and good.
3, Nowadays most of the marriages are either intercaste or love marriages, so no question of demanding material things. But in some cases looks like the groom demands a high class motorbike, furniture, and even property.
4. Career women are more knowledgeable about finance and make their own decisions. I don’t think any woman with self respect will use marriage as a tool to improve her financial status.
5. With so many restrictions on providing visas to a married couple by many western countries , I don’t think it’s so easy to get immigration status just through marriage.

I am not sure whether I am right or wrong to the points you have made here, but still I have attempted to enlighten them, to the best of my knowledge, just like those 2 mark questions in the school exam paper!
Agatha83