We have talked about what makes our relationships with our husband’s happy and easy going. Now, let’s talk about ourselves. I will share with you all my observation and you can add on to that. You need a good friend. If you are lucky enough to have more than one good friend, it’s a bonus. You need your Meredith (Gray’s Anatomy fans will know what I mean). That special person with whom you can share the details of shellac nailpolish disaster or the moment your boss was digging his nose thinking no one is seeing him or a shoulder when your husband strayed, a shoulder when your mom passed, a rock by you through thick and thin. This makes a world of difference in you. You need a circle of girlfriends. Nurture that special someone in your life. It was my friend who brought me back to shore when I was in deep deep trauma 3 years ago. It was the ladies in IL who stood by me, crying with me when I cried, smiling when I smiled. In virtual world and in real world, a friend is more likely to be your soulmate.