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Children Of Single Parents.

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by joylokhi, Jul 9, 2016.

  1. KashmirFlower

    KashmirFlower IL Hall of Fame

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    single parent topic discussion video, watched couple of months ago.
    in this Kids said, they are good with having a single parent,


    I think who are a single parent, they will have (to) somebody close to child as a guardian, in case anything happens to that parent, and that guardian has to understand his/her responsibility and accept it with knowing all things, not just in papers. Usually it would be grandparents or aunt or uncles.

    if anybody says to kid repeatedly (from close ones, when they are very young), poor child u don't have mom/dad etc, then they may believe they have something missing in life.
    I think what we tell, they believe in that , if they are told we are family, small family , then they believe that and be happy.
     
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    As long as the child is given good environment to live in , nothing matters at all.Risks are there everywhere.We have done a lot against nature and tradition to worry about.Surrogacy is a boon for those parents who cannot have children on their own.And also for singles who do not believe in having a partner.
     
  3. joylokhi

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    [QUOTE="madras2018, post: 3847785, member: 66749"
    Bottom line - @joylokhi you are right in thinking that there are serious risks involved in single parent surrogacy (or even single parent adoption). But the real danger lies not to society but to the child itself in case the parent (father/mother) dies before the child attains adulthood. Single parent becomes a single point of failure in his/her child's life. So raising a child in a two-parent household may be preferred, if only in lowering such a risk. It is immaterial whether the two parents are same-sex or opposite-sex relationships.[/QUOTE]
    Dear madras2018,
    you couldn't have summed it up better. Thank you.
     
  4. joylokhi

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    Thank you kashmirflower for your views and the video.
     
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    Thanks again to each of you for your views. I stand corrected to the extent to the extent that it is not all black and white and something dreadful as i had felt when i opened the thread.
     
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    This is a topical discussion.
    Why is surrogacy bad and sperm donation fine?
     
  7. shobhamma

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    But this situation would have happened with natural and adopted children too !
     
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    I am not saying surrogacy is bad.

    Surrogacy and sperm donation on totally different.
    In the technicalities, sperm donation can be compared to egg donation. Surrogacy may not involve egg donation but just renting of the womb to put it crudely.
    A surrogate mother likely has no genetic link with the child , unlike a sperm donor.

    But the real think that makes surrogacy so complicated and miles apart from sperm donation is the emotional involvement - there are physiological and psychological commitments/changes in a woman.
    Dont think men are attached to their sperms :p
     
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    Marriage as an institution is probably a few thousand years old , at best.
    And Monogamy is even lesser .
    "Modern" human species evolved over a hundred thousand years ago.
    How does that make Marriage a natural thing?

    Nature, in my opinion, is pretty ruthless.
    Just an opinion.

     
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    How does it happen in traditional families (or as you put it in natural children)? To begin with most families start off as a two-parent household. In rare cases one of the parents of the child dies within the first year of its birth. That is the closest similarity to surrogate birth where the father rents a womb and the mother is not in the picture from day two of the child's life.

    Divorced parents may be comparable but then again they are legally bound to provide for the offspring even if they re-marry. Sure there are dead-beat moms and dads who have nothing to do with the child and the single parent situation plays itself out.

    What I'm saying is - anybody choosing to have a child as a single parent via the surrogate mother route must make backup plans for the care and guardianship of the child in the event of their untimely death. It is irresponsible to bring in human life just to experience parenthood without accounting for what-ifs. This kind of back-up option is a given in most two-parent households. Again the emphasis is not on the homo-or hetero sexual relationships. The focus is on making sure the child doesn't end up orphaned.

     
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